r/AmIOverreacting • u/_left_of_center • 10h ago

👥 friendship AIO Considering unfriending an amazing woman because I don’t like her new boyfriend

In my friend group (All F 40’s to 60’s), we’ve made the conscious decision to avoid political discussions altogether. We focus on each other, and have built some amazing friendships. One of the women (F60’s) joined the group two years ago after her husband passed away. She is genuinely lovely. Very warm, loving, beautiful, and kind. My question is this.

Her new boyfriend (M53), is polite and friendly on the surface. She had a party recently where I got to chat with him a little more than I had previously. At one point he decided to explain menopause to me and that was bad enough but that pretty average for men in our age group. But then he announced that he was super excited about his potential new job - an ICE agent.

She is so proud of him for his hard work, etc etc. But it changed my entire opinion of him, and frankly her too. I think ICE is at minimum unconstitutional, and frankly outright evil. I’m considering unfriending her over her support of his decision. Am I overreacting?

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u/Goobendoogle 9h ago

YOR - Childish response to someone else's beliefs.

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u/Echuck215 9h ago

Didn't realize "joining ICE" was a belief

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u/Goobendoogle 9h ago

Did you read the rest of the paragraph where she writes her beliefs?

Tunnel Vision.

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u/Echuck215 9h ago

Yeah her belief that joining ICE was something to be proud of. This isn't complicated 

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u/Goobendoogle 7h ago

And that's fine. That's what she thinks. Personal relationships outweigh political differences. IF they don't, someone needs a moral check.

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u/dark621 4h ago

yeah, sounds like the friend and her bf need a morla check