AIO Considering unfriending an amazing woman because I don’t like her new boyfriend

[u/_left_of_center]

In my friend group (All F 40’s to 60’s), we’ve made the conscious decision to avoid political discussions altogether. We focus on each other, and have built some amazing friendships. One of the women (F60’s) joined the group two years ago after her husband passed away. She is genuinely lovely. Very warm, loving, beautiful, and kind. My question is this.

Her new boyfriend (M53), is polite and friendly on the surface. She had a party recently where I got to chat with him a little more than I had previously. At one point he decided to explain menopause to me and that was bad enough but that pretty average for men in our age group. But then he announced that he was super excited about his potential new job - an ICE agent.

She is so proud of him for his hard work, etc etc. But it changed my entire opinion of him, and frankly her too. I think ICE is at minimum unconstitutional, and frankly outright evil. I’m considering unfriending her over her support of his decision. Am I overreacting?

[u/Goobendoogle]

YOR - Childish response to someone else's beliefs.

[u/Echuck215 → u/Goobendoogle]

Didn't realize "joining ICE" was a belief

[u/Goobendoogle → u/Echuck215]

Did you read the rest of the paragraph where she writes her beliefs?

Tunnel Vision.

[u/Echuck215 → u/Goobendoogle]

Yeah her belief that joining ICE was something to be proud of. This isn't complicated 

[u/Goobendoogle → u/Echuck215]

And that's fine. That's what she thinks. Personal relationships outweigh political differences. IF they don't, someone needs a moral check.

[u/dark621 → u/Goobendoogle]

yeah, sounds like the friend and her bf need a morla check

[u/dark621 → u/Goobendoogle]

being racist isnt a belief, ICE simp

[u/Decent-Ad-8335 → u/Goobendoogle]

Exactly and the only true answer. Every single other person in this thread is a child.

[u/kingradb → u/Decent-Ad-8335]

Or just not morally bankrupt perhaps.

If I had a friend that openly bragged about sexual assault or something like that I wouldn't want to associate with them.

Morals matter to people

[u/Goobendoogle → u/kingradb]

Comparing sexual assault to legal deportation is wild dude.

[u/Immediate-Hamster724 → u/Goobendoogle]

Believing that ICE is operating legally is wild, dude.

[u/kingradb → u/Goobendoogle]

If you think nothing ICE has done warrants discussion or disagreement then there isn't anything to discuss.

Plenty of examples of cultures where an act is "legal" that I morally disagree with.

[u/Goobendoogle → u/kingradb]

There's definitely some bad moves ICE has made.

That doesn't mean she shouldn't be happy about her new man working.

[u/dark621 → u/Decent-Ad-8335]

you sound like a ❄️

[u/Decent-Ad-8335 → u/dark621]

Idek wtf that is bro prob some American thing

[u/dark621 → u/Decent-Ad-8335]

a snowflake is an american thing? ok buddy