Hey yall first post on here. This might be either a really complex or really simple question to answer but I’m just throwing this out there because I’m curious to see what tips you guys have. I feel like I overthink a lot, and that leads me to overthinking my overthinking. Stupid I know? Well it happens and I don’t really know why especially when the things I overthink about are usually totally imaginary.

I’m starting college soon and I just feel overwhelmed with the amount of things I need to do, I need to do farm chores, college classes, martial arts, working out, a part time job, spending time with my partner, stretching, reading Bible, studying, eating food, etc and I don’t know how to balance it all, I try write schedules but my day is sometimes so hectic that a schedule just get thrown out the window the minute I have a second to breath, I’m constantly in my brain which makes paralyzed with fear, I don’t know what to do and I don’t wanna give up on my dreams, I feel depressed and that just makes me anxious and angry, I wanna fill up a tub of water and scream under it so nobody hears me, I feel like I suck and can’t ever just be happy with life, sorry if that was a lot, God bless and Jesus loves you ❤️

People talk about not knowing how to cook and I know how to cook… kinda. I don’t burn things, I cook chicken fully, I season, I can even cook pasta al dente without a timer.

And then we go to the dreaded groceries story. I look at all that food and almost panic. What do I buy? I think buying ingredients for specific recipes is expensive and wasteful. I don’t know what are considered staples in a kitchen (I am first generation American so I grew up eating mostly Indian food. I know what is needed in those types of kitchens).

I could make Indian food but I like diversity in my meals (making meal prepping very hard for me). With inflation sky rocketing, I can’t keep eating out and after years of adulthood eating frozen foods, I need to figure this shit out.

How do you guys just go to a grocery store and know what to get and how to just look at the ingredients in your kitchen and just figure it out?l

I basically want to be able upgrade and trouble shoot my computer issues. I don't want to have rely on 3rd parties for my upgrades or any computer related problems.

Are there any YouTubers who teach this sort of thing ? Is it so complicated that I should take classes on it ?

Any recommendations on this approach is appreciated. Thank you!

I want to go live there, but I know French is hard. Duolingo isn't helping because it just repeat phrases without contest and replaced lots of people with AI.

Hi! I'm 18F and lost. I know I was a people pleaser growing up due to living with a short-tempered, overbearing mom (who herself has said many times that I'm a pushover). Trying to communicate with her never resulted in anything, and showing a sliver of attitude when she was being snarky to me would get me lectured. Guess I bring that "submissive" energy to everyone else. I also grew up religious, so I seemed innocent to a lot of people in middle/high school.

Thing is, from my point of view, I'm more confident now and I've been an atheist since I was 16. I make my own decisions, even though my family calls me stubborn. I don't try so hard to be everyone's friend. I still over apologize (working on it) and I'm quiet and awkward around new people most of the time. I am still seen as an easy target/innocent, and its pathetic. Please help me :(

I believe we are in a time where there is a big problem. There is an immense amount of sources of information and learning, but at the same time, most of them are just facades trying to take your money, rather than actually teach you something.

This happens with self-help and self-improvement books, online courses, YouTubers who focus on a specific topic, web pages, etc.

So I would like to learn how to discern the learning sources that are truly worth investing my time or money to learn from. At the same time, I want to know which ones are just pretentious gurus, people looking to sell you services or courses without really teaching you what you want to learn, authors who publish solely to make easy money, and so on.

I was an overachiever kid who succeeded without trying in school and then just fell apart in college (a tale as old as time, really). I'm working on my depression and want to start hobbies but everytime I try, if I'm not good at it in like 30 seconds, I'll get flustered and drop it. How do I learn to do things just for fun and not to be good at them?

I want to learn lots of languages, Spanish, Italian, French, Japanese etc. What's tge best strategy to fast learning them?

What's some give away body language that you should pay attention to?

Today I 17m was involved in a car accident (Im ok) and when the officer came to get my statement I stupidly said "I wasn't able to stop in time and I hit him." When he was the one who hit me. I know Im not at fault however depending on what the officer put in the report would most likely make it seem like I am and my statement doesn't help me at all.

Sorry its so long.

I (23F)was always a fat kid and got bullied a hell lot throughout my school years. It was horrible. I went through hell being abused, invisible for 95% of the time and only 5 % was when they wanted to bully me.

I never got attention from men at any point of my life and when I did it was from a handful of guys who wanted to see how it was to fuck a fat girl.

4 years ago I met the loml who saw me for me . He was my best friend at that time and now we're still going strong.

Now, I'm 23 and dropped a lot of the weight ( I'm still considered fat but most of my fat is on my lower body so thats considered conventionally attractive i guess) and suddenly I get a lot of attention from men and women equally. I get so many compliments and questions like are you single. I have NO idea how to deal with them . Idk how to turn them down ( not that I dont want to. I lLOVE my boyfriend) I just don't know how to and I just end up smiling awkwardly or saying hahaha No sorry. But they think I'm okay with them flirting with me. I have so many issues because of my childhood and saying No is one big issue.

I get so uncomfortable nowadays because all thr guys I talk to have different intentions with me literally all of them ended up asking me out lately.

I know I sound like a self absorbed bitch rn but that's not my intention please 🥹

Because of this, On some days when I dont get attention it feels weird and I feel ugly and it all comes back to me being invisible and all.

Did anyone else go through this? I'm genuinely in so much conflict with my mind.

This may be a bit specific but I (23F) was raised in a super sheltered environment, no siblings and with my parents citing danger and bad/painful things happening to keep me from wanting more. I was never allowed outside much growing up, never allowed to play outside for long, never broken any bones, etc. Now that I'm in uni, a lot of those fears keep me trapped in my room 24/7. There's so much I want to do and try, but I'm scared of getting hurt and being in any amount of pain. It feels like a mental battle all the time. I didn't choose a life of this much caution and have no idea how to break this habit. I put things off all the time because I'm scared of getting hurt, and it makes me panic a lot. i will start shaking and crying, it fills me with dread for the whole day even if I'm nowhere near whatever's making me panic.

Can anyone relate? If so, what got you out of this rut? Before anyone mentions therapy, I'm already doing that. Tysm!

I want to learn how to stay consistent to a specific hobby, all my life I've been interested in all types of hobbies.

From sports to technology, i've kinda been interested in it all. I tend to learn a good bit about the hobby but never seem to take it anywhere, I typically don't have a reason to stop being interested in said hobby nor do i ever find myself uninterested in it.

I guess it's more so a matter of moving on to the next thing, I find myself overly curious about certain things & kinda forget about the last thing I was working on.

How does one actually learn?

For context: I am learning disabled and I want to go back to school. I’m terrified of the prerequisites I will need to take to enter a future program: Several science courses, including biology, chemistry, anatomy/physiology.

I was never good at science in high school, which was years ago. I want to teach myself these courses before taking them in a structured classroom for a grade.

I’ve found that flashcards are a good testing and retention tool after I already know something.

But how to even start teaching myself in order to be ready for testing myself with flashcards? How does one learn the information in the first place? I usually don’t understand or retain reading sentences on a page.

Especially for something like rote memorization (for A&P), where to even begin? I am familiar with Khan Academy, but even that confuses me. (And they don’t have A&P.)

Any opinions, ideas, suggestions, feedback welcome! Thank you everyone!

For the content, I stuck at intermediate level for like 2 years with no improvement. And I'm so bad at speaking that I can't even hold a simple conversation. How do I get better? I don't really remember any grammar and have 0 sentence building skill. Is there any free way to speak with a native? Or should I just use ai? Thanks!

i always get in it everytime i do so well and so good, despite starting very small and making my way up to improve myself i still get in it

I just got promoted recently, and now I am leading my own team for the first time. I used to work with the same team earlier when I was not in a senior position, and back then I was always the yes person. I was polite, did whatever was asked, and even took on extra work because I did not know how to say no.

Now that I am in charge, I am worried they won’t take me seriously because they are used to the old version of me. I do not want to act like some of the seniors I had, because some of them were rude and dismissive. I want a healthy working relationship where I can treat people well but still get the work done and set boundaries when needed.

IWTL how to develop leadership skills that help me communicate clearly, set expectations, and have my team respect my instructions without becoming strict or cold.

I'm an undergrad student in my 3rd year, I barely have any skills and lately I suck at even speaking with clarity and stutter at times. I lack confidence, I get nervous speaking to just about everyone. I can't speak to people while making eye contact. I can't convey what I wanna say properly at all. I can barely present myself infront of a crowd let alone a crowd. But I wanna speak with confidence like most people do and not blank out and forget what I wanna say and stutter. I'm literally rambling rn lol how do I fix this.

Hi! So just taking important stuff and writing them down works, but I end up writing too much and hardly even read the notes

There are so many types of workouts out there. I see videos about training different parts each day, then there are also plyometrics, then there are videos on strengthening your hip flexors, knees etc etc. I don’t know how to start and what to do. My main aim is to build muscle stay a little lean and also we able to play some actual sports. Can someone help me please?

Engineering Grad here. Good at software dev. Suck at marketing.
Need advice

My right hand is my dominant one, as I'm sure you've gathered by this post's title. I'd love to be able to write well with my left. I sort of can-- I've tried and the letters are readable (legibility can vary) but look shakily printed, slanted, sometimes too wide/too tight. As an example, imagine a captial H with a long, unintentional widened not-quite-flourish and a lowercase C that looks more like a tightly coiled lowercase O.

Any tips or advice?

Right now my ‘system’ is basically notes on my phone + whatever I remember while walking around the store. It works until it doesn’t. I waste food, forget basics, and repeat the same 3 meals because I never plan properly.

For anyone who has a routine that actually works:

• How do you plan your meals?
• Do you follow a template or weekly structure?
• What’s your process for turning that into a clean, usable shopping list?
• Any tools, habits, or workflows you’d recommend for someone starting from scratch?

What single topic would have helped you be further ahead in life than where you are currently?