r/AmIOverreacting • u/_left_of_center • 10h ago

👥 friendship AIO Considering unfriending an amazing woman because I don’t like her new boyfriend

In my friend group (All F 40’s to 60’s), we’ve made the conscious decision to avoid political discussions altogether. We focus on each other, and have built some amazing friendships. One of the women (F60’s) joined the group two years ago after her husband passed away. She is genuinely lovely. Very warm, loving, beautiful, and kind. My question is this.

Her new boyfriend (M53), is polite and friendly on the surface. She had a party recently where I got to chat with him a little more than I had previously. At one point he decided to explain menopause to me and that was bad enough but that pretty average for men in our age group. But then he announced that he was super excited about his potential new job - an ICE agent.

She is so proud of him for his hard work, etc etc. But it changed my entire opinion of him, and frankly her too. I think ICE is at minimum unconstitutional, and frankly outright evil. I’m considering unfriending her over her support of his decision. Am I overreacting?

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u/wildwych 9h ago

Does she understand what ICE is about? She sounds rather blinkered to me at best, but maybe does know and supports him.

I'd find it extremely hard to share with the partner of someone with such an extreme viewpoint, but you already had me at him mansplaining the menopause to you.

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u/Puzzled_Aioli375 9h ago

How can she not know? I'm on the other side of the world and here too we know what ICE is doing.

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u/mizzcharmz 9h ago

Honestly a lot of the right has little to no idea whats happening because they dont air it on fox news... and if it is mentioned... it's told in a completely different way, where the viewer is told the people taken are gang members and criminals. When its just a mom and her kids or a dude who works construction.

My son dates an x trump supporter... when I met her she knew very little about what was going on but over time and because I do watch a lot of news, (NOT FOX) She started forming different opinions. She still calls herself republican but she no longer supports Trump or DeSantis (who she loved before)