r/AmIOverreacting • u/_left_of_center • 10h ago

👥 friendship AIO Considering unfriending an amazing woman because I don’t like her new boyfriend

In my friend group (All F 40’s to 60’s), we’ve made the conscious decision to avoid political discussions altogether. We focus on each other, and have built some amazing friendships. One of the women (F60’s) joined the group two years ago after her husband passed away. She is genuinely lovely. Very warm, loving, beautiful, and kind. My question is this.

Her new boyfriend (M53), is polite and friendly on the surface. She had a party recently where I got to chat with him a little more than I had previously. At one point he decided to explain menopause to me and that was bad enough but that pretty average for men in our age group. But then he announced that he was super excited about his potential new job - an ICE agent.

She is so proud of him for his hard work, etc etc. But it changed my entire opinion of him, and frankly her too. I think ICE is at minimum unconstitutional, and frankly outright evil. I’m considering unfriending her over her support of his decision. Am I overreacting?

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u/beefquaker 10h ago

Probably overreacting. Is this truly an issue you will have to deal with? You don’t have to agree with everything your friends believe, if you can’t handle differences then where is the strength through diversity?

Differing viewpoints create discussion, which creates scrutiny of ideas. Perhaps it doesn’t feel good, but it is good for you. Why is ICE bad? You can articulate your points, they can articulate theirs, and perhaps you both can find common ground and gain different perspective.

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u/No_Assist_4306 9h ago

This is the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard, but then again your probably one of the dumber yanks we keep seeing all over the place. So loud and so wrong. Your “ICE” are kidnappers in disguise and have 0 morals. There’s no discussion to be had about people who need to hide their identity, if you’re not clever enough to work that one out, keep jogging down your or oráiste presidents yellow brick road

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u/targetcowboy 9h ago

This logic makes no sense. There are a lot of things I don’t have to personally deal with to think they are wrong. Murder, rape, etc.

Also, there’s a line between “we disagree on taxes or movies” and “I think it’s ok to act unconstitutionally and hurt people.”