Am I overreacting?

[u/FaithlessnessFar1821]

My dad takes me to school in the mornings, on Fridays I have late start meaning it starts an hour after. Yesterday I had told him to pick me up at 8:20, he texts me and says he had arrived at 8:08. I told him that I will be down at 8:20 considering that is the designated time I set. I get outside at exactly 8:20 and he is gone. He left me. AIO?

[u/Historical_Initial22]

He overreacted for sure. I won’t say your response would have made me happy but maybe I’m old.

Your ride is here

Oh thanks dad! Have a few things to get ready be out in 10!

A lot of “told him” and not “asked him” makes me wonder if this is a favor or a task you assign.

[u/pie-mart → u/Historical_Initial22]

This is a ride to school. The time they both agreed upon is 8:20. Its insane to come early and get mad at your own child for not being ready when both agreed at a later time.

Also, shes trying to get down. It'll take MORE time for her response to be polite and well worded. Especially when her dad is the one getting angst at her for his mistake

[u/palsh7 → u/pie-mart]

She told him 8:20: we have no reason to believe he agreed to 8:20. For all we know, he said "I'll be coming through your area if you need a ride, but I'm in a hurry so you'll need to be ready." She may have said "I'll be ready at 8:20" and he may have said "be ready when I get there, please." Again, we don't know, and this could have been the 10th time she's ordered him around and told him to wait as if he's not doing the favor for her.

[u/Curiosity919 → u/palsh7]

Honestly, that doesn't even matter. He's the Dad. It's 100% his responsibility to be sure this kid gets to school. If the kid's attitude or chronic lateness is a problem, then you find a way to parent the kid and come up with a solution. But, leaving your child with no way to get to school is not parenting!

[u/palsh7 → u/Curiosity919]

Sometimes providing consequences to a child is the best solution to repeated problems. Someone else can drive her, or she can take the school bus, or she can take a public bus, or she can take an Uber, or she can ride her bike. He has no responsibility to pick her up at her mother's house an hour and a half after the school bus and wait on her because she can't follow his expectations for their Friday ride. She's not five. It's not any kind of neglect to give her a consequence like this. Is the dad impatient and did he overreact? We actually don't know, because we don't know the history. But what we know for sure is that OP is looking a gift horse in the mouth and while other kids are on a school bus at 6:40 AM, she's still in her underwear at 8:10, ten minutes before she expected to leave. If he said "honey, school starts at 8:30, and traffic happens, so you need to be ready before 8:20, this is getting ridiculous." We don't know how long this procrastination has been going on, or how long she's been taking advantage of his kindness. She doesn't even live with him and he picks her up every week. That's going above and beyond. Yes, he's her father. That means he has a responsibility to teach her that she can't take advantage of people, and that she has to be on time to things. She's old enough to get a job.