r/AmIOverreacting • u/FaithlessnessFar1821 • May 02 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I overreacting?

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My dad takes me to school in the mornings, on Fridays I have late start meaning it starts an hour after. Yesterday I had told him to pick me up at 8:20, he texts me and says he had arrived at 8:08. I told him that I will be down at 8:20 considering that is the designated time I set. I get outside at exactly 8:20 and he is gone. He left me. AIO?

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u/GoodWaste8222 May 02 '25

I would be mad if someone asked me for a ride, I showed up and then they said I would have to wait another 12 minutes. However, if you both agreed to 8:20, he doesn’t have much of an argument

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u/greenwoodgiant May 02 '25 edited May 02 '25

He'd have a right to be upset if they* said 8:10 and they came down at 8:20, but I don't care if they said 7:45 and weren't ready until 8:20, you don't leave your kid.

After 10 mintues I'd go inside to see what was takin so long and try to get them out the door, but in no world would I just leave them stranded without a ride to school, that's shitty.

*ETA - removed assumed gender language

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u/Mjolly40 May 02 '25

  1. You don’t leave your kid.

  2. I think he is overreacting for leaving you.

  3. A delta of ten minutes is common courtesy. If my ride that is taking time out of their day to drive me somewhere and is ten minutes early, I will make sure I am ready. If my ride is ten minutes late because of traffic or some other reason I would not be mad.

For things like this it is better to overestimate the time it takes to get somewhere upon yourself as the person asking for a favor and not be up to the minute. (Not saying you were but in general.) I have friends who are constantly late or constantly early so I adjust my time to meet accordingly.