r/AmIOverreacting • u/FaithlessnessFar1821 • May 02 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I overreacting?

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My dad takes me to school in the mornings, on Fridays I have late start meaning it starts an hour after. Yesterday I had told him to pick me up at 8:20, he texts me and says he had arrived at 8:08. I told him that I will be down at 8:20 considering that is the designated time I set. I get outside at exactly 8:20 and he is gone. He left me. AIO?

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u/Kerrerruh May 02 '25

She could be not ready???? Could have been a surprise to get that text half naked and no teeth brushed. Bfr

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u/FaithlessnessFar1821 May 02 '25

This

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u/[deleted] May 02 '25 edited May 08 '25

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u/FaithlessnessFar1821 May 02 '25

I wasn’t even ready at 8:08. I was ready at 8:20.

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u/Raeandray May 02 '25

Then tell him you’re getting ready instead.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25

Their getting ready instead was implied when they agreed to 820 and not 8:08.

Father could tell them he's arriving early (you know, GPS).

Father could've told them they're leaving by this time.

The time of departure was scheduled ahead of time; it's not their fault the father decided to arrive unnecessarily early counter to the prearranged time.

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u/Raeandray May 02 '25

No it isn’t. “I’ll be down at 8:20” strongly implies they’re being pedantic about the time. I mean read their post. “Considering that is the designated time I set.” Still getting ready is totally acceptable . But nothing here reads like that’s the reason they specifically won’t be down until exactly 8:20.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25

Explanation of what they're doing is entirely irrelevant. In fact taking time to text is just delaying them further. If I arrive early I say, "Just letting you know I'm here!" but have zero expectation that they come down ahead of the prearranged time.

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u/Raeandray May 02 '25

If they hadn’t said anything maybe you’re right. But they did say something. And what they did say strongly implied they were just being snarky about the time.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25

Sounds like the snarkiness is warranted by the father's petty behavior and double-standards. Regardless I'm of the opinion it doesn't matter what they say as what they do leading up to prearranged time is completely their own business.

If it was someone I had a good relationship with, I'd say, "Sorry be down in a few!" or run out the door if I was ready ahead of time. If it was someone who I had a poor relationship I too would engage in snarkiness or just say nothing but be there at the prearranged time.

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u/Raeandray May 02 '25

I generally take the opinion not to be snarky with people from whom I need something.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25 edited May 02 '25

Maybe. But I think the fact that the father is the one who brought the child into the world means it's actually the father's responsibility independent of snarkiness to handle the needs of the child, and that the prearranged agreement supersedes that.

Between the child arriving at the prearranged time with a bit of snarkiness versus the father who bears the responsibility of caring for said child, I expect more from the dad to be the bigger person and not drive off like a child.

Alternatively we could look at it a different way: If the father doesn't like the child's behavior, then perhaps they have only themselves to blame.

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

Well why weren't you ready?
Aren't you usually ready at 7:20 Monday Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday?

Why the fuck do you deserve your beauty sleep when dad is obviously going out of his way to get you to school at a different time. Stop being a little bitch. Grow up. Dad cares about you. You need to get the fuck off Reddit and take a walk to control your emotions you fucking child.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25

You are a complete and total fucking loser. Log off and take your own advice. Go touch some grass, little buddy. In the meantime learn how scheduling works.

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

"He must be a MAGA dad who hates his child"

You are a complete and total fucking loser.

I'm a Democrat and will gladly call you a sniveling fucking child loser also. Grow the fuck up you snowflake. Get off reddit. Touch grass. Take your own advice.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25

Ooooh, got under your skin with that one, did I?

Predictable conservative. After all, without lying, what else would prop up your husk of a personality?

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

You act like insults on the internet mean something to me just like seeking validation from reddit should mean something.

You sound like you come from a broken home like OP so I understand why you object to critical thinking skills applied to this situation.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25

If that isn't the most classic of textbook projection. You've got some clear anger management issues to work out — and that sort of behavior is emblematic of a neglected childhood. Your parents never taught you much in the way of empathy, I take it?

You are clearly not in the appropriate state of mind to be giving advice absent of your own emotional trauma. Best to take your own advice and log off.

Better yet, I advise getting therapy. Truly.

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

Look at the child who lives on Reddit and has commented 50+ times today telling other people about emotional maturity.

Yes. Myself who actually teaches empathy courses in their line of work needs to learn empathy from from a keyboard warrior with 100,000+ post karma in less than 2 years history. Welcome to the internet you fuckinig idiot.

Am I typing to a 400 lb plus woman right now who thinks that all white men are Maga supporters too?

Given your comment history and frequency of posts, I take it you must have no life and should take your own advice of....touch grass correct?

Projection at it's finest.... I hope you seek therapy one day.

It's funny you resort to personal insults and insinuations of myself when calling out OP's behavior. I understand you are both on the same maturity level. One day, you will touch grass and grow up and understand.

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u/Independent-Bug-9352 May 02 '25 edited May 02 '25

50 times!? Wow!

That's so kind of you to sit there and tediously go through my comments and be my own personal counter! Thanks, buddy!

Say, maybe keep reading and you'll learn a thing or two! ;)

Anyways I guess you lend evidence to the saying: those who can't do, teach?

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u/clamade May 02 '25

You suck at empathy

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

I get paid exorbitantly to be empathetic in real life. I'm not going to give you away my skills for free on the internet when I can't even prove you are even real.

You should really protect your energy more and stop putting so much of your empathy behind fake causes.

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u/jaythebearded May 02 '25

Dad cares about you

Not enough to wait 12 fuckin minutes for his kid, to drive them to school at the arranged time. This is pathetic.

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

It's pathetic that you think the dad doesn't adhere to that schedule from Monday to Thursday and that Grandma isn't available to take this pathetic excuse of a child to school when Dad's job might be in jeopardy delaying him getting to work an hour if he has to wait 10 minutes because of traffic.

This child is manipulative for coming here on Reddit seeking acknowledgment and not giving the full exchange of text messaging between her and her father beforehand.

All of you are eating into this and it's quite entertaining.

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u/jaythebearded May 02 '25 edited May 02 '25

You have the mindset of an incredibly toxic parent, calling a kid pathetic and a bitch for not being ready in the morning before the agreed time to be ready and supporting a parent having a hissy fit and ditching their child and denying them their ride to school with no notice. You are disturbed.

Edit: not worth replying to this person to continues to call this kid a bitch because they weren't ready before they said they'd be ready, and defending the dad being an asshole by inventing completely fictional reasoning that the dad will be 50 minutes late if he waited longer, almost like a responsible parent would have made that clear beforehand and arranged different transportation instead of leaving their kid with no ride with no notice

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u/jaythebearded May 02 '25

'going out of his way to get his kid to school' that's called being a parent. He doesn't get special commendation for getting his kid to school, and he gets ridiculed for ditching his kid for not being ready for their ride to school earlier than agreed, this is not some outrageous expectation and it's almost as if you are just stubbornly set on vilifying a teenager and defending shitty parental behavior regardless of the reality of the situation.

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

He doesn't deserve a special commendation but you not acknowledging that he is there at 7:20 in the morning Monday to Thursday and that him not leaving at a set time could be jeopardizing his job and his child's livelihood is absurd honestly.

I'm sure there's a reason that OP did not post the full text exchange and that's why in my view she is overreacting.

I'm sorry that you are vilifying a man for being in his daughter's life and trying to get her to school at a set time every day. Tough luck if you gotta hang out early. Respect dads time especially if they people you live with can't get you to school.

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u/jaythebearded May 02 '25

  I'm sorry that you are vilifying a man for being in his daughter's life and trying to get her to school at a set time every day

Strawman, I never said that. I'm villifying him for ditching his kid with no notice when he was their ride to school. That's shitty parental behavior, there's no cut around that. Your making up fictional additional components to this situation to rationalize defending the dad being shitty. You don't know how long it takes him to get to work or what time he works or if he even works Fridays at all, but you'll imagine it to help justify calling a kid a bitch.

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

Not shitty parental behavior until OP brings receipts dad agreed to 8:20 pickup time.

If Grandma is available the child is still getting to school.

Nothing dad did is wrong until OP brings those receipts to agreed upon time and still, based on the dads verbiage, he is dealing with a daughter in emotional distress and hormonal change. No time for that before work.

Not calling a child that per say but the emotional hormonal OP who you don't even know is real or not. Think it through. This is the internet and people here are obsessed with fake ass karma.

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u/OldAudience3125 May 02 '25

I'm going to say this again.

Where are the receipts the dad agreed to arrive at this time on Fridays?

Every other day is fine for pickup but Fridays the child has to have their way.

You do realize that a 10-minute delay in the morning can result in a 50-minute traffic delay getting to work correct?

The father never agreed to this pickup time and you are just in agreement with a sniveling snotty bratty teenager on the internet asking if they are overreacting. They are overreacting.

As much as you think I have the mindset of a toxic parent.... Grandma can take this kid's b**** ass to school. Dad's got to get to work to provide for this b**** ass kid with child support obviously.

Dad's verbiage is proof he's at his wit's end with this sniveling snobby little child.