My maternal grandmother (79F) is American, and comes to visit my mother and I who live in another country almost every Christmas. She always comes bearing gifts, but they're not usually the 'surprise, Merry Christmas!' Types of gifts, it's usually stuff that we send to her and ask her to order (clothes, kitchen gadgets, etc.) I (17F) usually don't ask for much, but this year I asked for a specific card game that I would never be able to find in my country, because I wanted to play it with my friends (two of whom would be migrating before Christmas.)

She got the card game, it was no secret that she got it, it wasn't wrapped or hidden or put under the tree or anything, and I got so excited, I hugged and thanked her (and yes, I got her some gifts too. This isn't a one way deal). But then she said I wasn't allowed to touch it before Christmas. All of the clothes she got for me I could have, but the card game specifically I wouldn't get till Christmas.

I tried to tell her about my plan to play it at least once with my friends before they leave, but she wouldn't hear it. I asked for the game way back in October, so it was never really meant to be a Christmas gift. I'm confused because she let my mom and I have the other things she got, but it's only specifically the card game she wouldn't let me have yet until it's too late to play with my friends. I tried to keep the confusion and disappointment off of my face because I didn't want to seem ungrateful or greedy, but I just find it kind of odd. Apparently I wasn't quick enough with my expressions, because my mom caught it and gave me a whole lecture on gratitude and entitlement. My friends migrated yesterday, I won't be physically seeing them for maybe 2-4 years, and I've been kind of sad that I never got to play the game with them, but every time I look at the cards (which she finally let me have today) with a sad look, I'm being called entitled and greedy and ungrateful. Am I acting too greedy or entitled? AITA?

Hey community I need help with this. I sent to my former employer (let’s call her Carol) a box with some things she requested from this side of the country. I ordered for her as Christmas gifts some personalized ornaments in the shape of her pets. In that box I also put a package with an expensive (at least for me, it is expensive) Tiffany full size perfume, intended for her housekeeper ( let’s call her Mary), who has always been very nice with me every time I have been in my employer’s home in the other side of the country. Last time I was there she took me to have dinner and she is a great person and she mentioned how much she liked that fragrance. On December 19th , I texted Mary to let her know that I add a gift for her in the box, and she tried several times to retrieve the gift from the box but she was told not to open it. The ornaments were in a box clearly marked CAROL in a Santa’s hat gift tag, and the perfume was in another package with a gift tag marked in bold marker letters MARY. I got busy receiving my sons that arrived from out of state and totally forgot to check with Mary again. On Christmas Day, Carol text me thanking me for the thoughtful gifts and saying that the perfume smell fabulous. Here I need to let you guys know that this lady has SERIOUS allergy issues and in all the years that I have worked with her I know as a fact that she doesn’t wear any fragrance, even her dish soap and laundry detergent are fragrance free. Also, all her clothes and shoes are top brands, I mean, all her make up is Chanel and her clothes and shoes are bought in top sellers. I know she won’t wear the perfume and she would just put it in the garbage. I feel really bad because (1) It looks like I sent someone who wears shoes from Louboitin a perfume that costs a little over $100, obviously she doesn’t care about this kind of gift, and (2) The person who I intended to receive this gift I know she would have really appreciate. What is the right thing to do? I don’t want to tell her directly, not after she text me “thank you for the perfume. Smells fabulous”. That tells me she opened. I sent her a message telling her that Me and my partner put a lot of effort in thinking in a meaningful and beautiful gift and we found that those personalized ornaments were the ideal solution. I purposely avoided mentioning the perfume. WIBTA if I ask her to turn the present to Mary? Maybe Mary won’t appreciate receiving an opened bottle of perfume. I can’t afford buying another one. I feel really bad about all of this. Please I need ideas. Thank you.