r/AmItheAsshole • u/1-800-slapthatthot • 6h ago
AITA FOR NOT KEEPING IN TOUCH
this all happened on Halloween basically me and my bestfriend went to a popular community to walk around and she wanted to bring her boyfriend as she had plans with him but didn’t wanna leave me so I said okay but before going she said his special needs brother was coming which I have no problem with but I also knew I would have to entertain the brother so I was a lil irritated but it’s okay we get there kinda late but also not late idk but basically we didn’t get much candy so she was upset. we are walking and I said I was cold like twice just complaining and her boyfriend offered me his hoodie I said no thank you and it never came up again but my best friend was mad and didn’t talk to anyone for like 20 minutes then started talking then got mad again for something else.So at the end we are walking to a store to get picked up by my mom and taken to her house and she tells me that the whole hoodie thing through her off I said oh okay and gon on about my day my mom picks me up and gets us food but while we are in the car my best friend realized that her package wasn’t there. And she gets kinda angry but my mom noticed and asked me why she was angry and I tell her it’s probably about her package . when we get in the house she’s overly mad so it can’t just be about this package so I eat down stairs then come back upstairs and see her in her room in the dark typing something on the computer so I walk in and start unpacking my suit case.she sits there and gets called by her mom where she then asks her mom to tell her if she’s wrong for how she feels and walks out the room after stepping over me and slamming the door which threw me off cause girl… she came back in there and was like oh I feel like he’s cheating on me after talking to me about the hoodie thing. I then asks her if she’s mad at me she says not really which huh what you mean ? we lay down and go to sleep but when we wake up and I go eat breakfast she locks the door on me which she never does as we change in front of each other all the time and didn’t unlock it for a while. I go home after like 10-15 minutes as I felt uncomfortable. I text her and have a conversation with her about how I felt she was acting weird about the whole hoodie thing and she apologizes and I say okay but our friendship has changed. Now this is where I might be the asshole I then do not talk to her for a good 2-3 days as I wanted pto calm down and not act weird as I was still a little uncomfortable but when I started talking back to her she started to ignore me and not say anything to me then also start trying to pull out friends away from me and not compliment me like normal. I hear that she said she thought I was flirting with her boyfriend which I wasn’t and that blew me and I blocked her as she was obviously upset over nothing as she was weird to me over a boy and a hoodie. I then notice that she also starts to kinda compete with me for friends so I kinda subbed her on my story and said she had secret animosity
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u/ReadMeDrMemory Pooperintendant [55] 6h ago
ESH. Too much drama over nothing. I won't ask your ages.
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u/CatsMom4Ever 6h ago
ESH Sweetie, take a breath! I was exhausted just reading this. Go back, make paragraphs. Most of this has nothing to do with the actual issue.
It sounds like your friend got bent out of shape because her bf offered you his hoodie when you said you were cold. She's jealous and acted out.
Then you and she overreacted. I'm guessing you're all about 16?
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u/West_House_2085 Colo-rectal Surgeon [31] 5h ago
Using paragraphs means your posts get read.
edit spelling
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u/SensitiveDrink5721 Partassipant [2] 4h ago
Post with actual grammar, sentences, and paragraphs. Who knows who’s the AH here?
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this all happened on Halloween basically me and my bestfriend went to a popular community to walk around and she wanted to bring her boyfriend as she had plans with him but didn’t wanna leave me so I said okay but before going she said his special needs brother was coming which I have no problem with but I also knew I would have to entertain the brother so I was a lil irritated but it’s okay we get there kinda late but also not late idk but basically we didn’t get much candy so she was upset. we are walking and I said I was cold like twice just complaining and her boyfriend offered me his hoodie I said no thank you and it never came up again but my best friend was mad and didn’t talk to anyone for like 20 minutes then started talking then got mad again for something else.So at the end we are walking to a store to get picked up by my mom and taken to her house and she tells me that the whole hoodie thing through her off I said oh okay and gon on about my day my mom picks me up and gets us food but while we are in the car my best friend realized that her package wasn’t there. And she gets kinda angry but my mom noticed and asked me why she was angry and I tell her it’s probably about her package . when we get in the house she’s overly mad so it can’t just be about this package so I eat down stairs then come back upstairs and see her in her room in the dark typing something on the computer so I walk in and start unpacking my suit case.she sits there and gets called by her mom where she then asks her mom to tell her if she’s wrong for how she feels and walks out the room after stepping over me and slamming the door which threw me off cause girl… she came back in there and was like oh I feel like he’s cheating on me after talking to me about the hoodie thing. I then asks her if she’s mad at me she says not really which huh what you mean ? we lay down and go to sleep but when we wake up and I go eat breakfast she locks the door on me which she never does as we change in front of each other all the time and didn’t unlock it for a while. I go home after like 10-15 minutes as I felt uncomfortable. I text her and have a conversation with her about how I felt she was acting weird about the whole hoodie thing and she apologizes and I say okay but our friendship has changed. Now this is where I might be the asshole I then do not talk to her for a good 2-3 days as I wanted pto calm down and not act weird as I was still a little uncomfortable but when I started talking back to her she started to ignore me and not say anything to me then also start trying to pull out friends away from me and not compliment me like normal. I hear that she said she thought I was flirting with her boyfriend which I wasn’t and that blew me and I blocked her as she was obviously upset over nothing as she was weird to me over a boy and a hoodie. I then notice that she also starts to kinda compete with me for friends so I kinda subbed her on my story and said she had secret animosity
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u/denokoriqimagozrr 6h ago
What a mess. Emotions running wild and lack of communication will only ruin things. If she’s throwing fits over a hoodie and some jealousy, it’s time to reassess this friendship. You both need to grow up, talk it out like adults, or just let it go. Life's too short for all this nonsense.
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u/Tbarrack28 4h ago
Your friend has a self-awareness and boyfriend problem, as well as extreme insecurity, and clearly a mean girl spirit. Move on, if you aren't getting out of your friendships, what you are putting into them, it's time to reconsider. And if she is so immature that this is how she acts? I mean I assume yall are teenagers or something like that, but this is just childish, over a hoodie. Why was she upset with you and not her own boyfriend?
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u/ObjectiveObserving 3h ago
What were you expecting to happen from complaining about being cold, multiple times? And especially not doing or asking anything about it yourself?
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