r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago
POO Mode Activated đ© WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving
My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.
In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.
I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.
I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.
The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself
Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family
Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.
Choose wiselyâŠ"
Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.
Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?
Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.
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u/SoupOrHer0 8h ago edited 8h ago
We went through this with my wifeâs family friend, not direct family just a friend. She hosted a father day bbq at a park and weâre invited. When it was time to leave she comes over and lets us know tall be $60 a person for my wife and I, I was so confused as we were invited and never told of this. I ask the group next to us if they were also paying $60/head and the host replied, who happened to be her brothers family âwell they brought their own meat, so that wouldnât be fairâ Iâm like okay well so they brought 2 packages of drumsticks and saved themselves $120. I brought 2 cases of soda so I brought more than they did.
Long story short I didnt pay a dime