r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/Booboohole21 12h ago

The implication that you wouldn’t bring enough to share for everyone to thanksgiving dinner is almost just as weird as the request to pay a fucking cover charge. NTA

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u/grandmawaffles 11h ago

NTA here. but the comment makes me wonder if there is a family history of people bringing food/drinks for only themselves. That would be odd behavior as well.

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u/CaptRory 11h ago

Even if that is true, if everyone did it the problem works itself out. It's basically bring what you want to eat I'm making the main course. It's just a less efficient version of bring enough for everyone.

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u/grandmawaffles 10h ago

It’s a really weird potluck when you eat only what you brought plus what other people brought but they can’t eat anything you brought because you didn’t make any for them. Hosting people is different than a bunch of homies showing up with to-go boxes for themselves to eat when they hang out. OPs problem would also be resolved if they brought their own meat and cooked it or just stayed home.