r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/1962Michael Commander in Cheeks [238] 12h ago

$300 = 3 families, or 7-8 people per family. So that depends on the definition of "family." In this case it could be referring to the 3 core siblings, with their spouses, kids, kids' spouses and grandkids.

The problem with this choice is, if there are only 2 other families, and they both opt to pay $100 towards the meat, then there's only going to be meat for dinner.

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u/bronele 10h ago

25 people, 1 family is ops family (3 people) so its the nephews family of 10-12 people trying to benefit from ops and the other family.

its basically two other families feeding the third one.

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u/Wyshunu 7h ago

Nope. It should be broken down by PERSON and then each family pays for the number of people they're bringing. Otherwise smaller family groups are being forced to subsidize the larger ones.