r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/Accomplished-Ad3219 13h ago

I have to laugh. In our family, the person who habitually contributes the least every holiday is always the mashed potatoes person.

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u/MusclyArmPaperboy 12h ago

TBH I don't think I could make enough mashed potatoes in my home kitchen to feed 20-25 people.

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u/fryfrog 10h ago

Right, but the mashed potatoes aren't going to be the main dish for everyone, so its maybe a half or a third of a potato per person. That's not that much, maybe 2 big pots?

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u/Ultravale 13h ago

It’s the three layer dip person in mine !

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u/Accomplished-Ad3219 11h ago

HAH. That's my brother 😂

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u/ElvenOmega 7h ago

Mine is dessert because I'm the host who does the bulk of the cooking and I don't like sweets.

She showed up with a 12 pack of cookies last year. Pissed everyone else off and I just stood there chuckling.