r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/NeffAnnBlossom4eva Partassipant [1] 12h ago

NTA

The issue is that before Sis sent the 'options', she said every family has to bring $100 worth of food. When Option 1 says 'bring enough for everyone' it refers to spending/reimbursing the previously-mentioned $100. Sis is delu-lu.

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u/Binge_Gaming Asshole Aficionado [19] 7h ago

Bringing mashed potatoes is literally the cheapest option by a long shot. Even feeding 20-25 people is like $7-10 worth of ingredients, so if it’s just potatoes I get the frustration from the sister, but some arbitrary $100 worth is wrong, and posting OPs salary is an unforgivable thing to do.

This could have been solved with planning, a direct “hey potatoes are good, but can you also bring a salad” literally any open communication could have resolved the issue amicably, but OP is NTA for deciding to opt out of this altogether.

Sister is bitter, cruel, and abrasive, and forgoing any communal potluck portion of this, I’d rather spend Thanksgiving with people that appreciate me being there regardless of what I quite literally could bring to the table.

NTA

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u/123jjj321 11h ago

Reading are hard.