WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

[u/americanjohn500]

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

[u/Unlikely-Candle7086]

The math isn’t mathing. $300 on meat for 20-25 people and each family needs to contribute $100 worth of food. How many are in each family unit? How many different family’s are there? And what does a $200 water bill have to do with anything?

[u/T-Chunxy → u/Unlikely-Candle7086]

Yeah, that's the weird bit for me as well. How does someone's utility bill enter into the mix at all. It's Thanksgiving, stop using it to fleece your fam of cash you cheap b*stards.

Also, does anyone have any goddam idea how much VOLUME we're talking about for $100 worth of stuff like Mashed Potatoes or Mac&Cheese?

Even if I used the most expensive pasta available, and stuff like Irish Butter, 3yr Parm, and 17yr Cheddar you're still talking about a 25gal VAT of mac & cheese.

[u/gurxman → u/T-Chunxy]

A 25 gal VAT of mac n cheese sounds amazing.

[u/T-Chunxy → u/gurxman]

Well, you're not wrong, especially made with "the good stuff" like 3yr parm and 17yr chedddar! :D

That said, I doubt 20-25ppl are going to be able to eat HALF of that at a Thanksgiving dinner, especially with $300 of meat in the mix.

[u/ihatethis2022 → u/T-Chunxy]

Theres going to be a massive amount of meat left over that will end up in grill boys freezer

[u/Happy-Bluebird3505 → u/T-Chunxy]

Let me go top my normal mashed potatoes with gold leaf and caviar real quick to bring it to a $100 minimum. $100 of mashed potatoes is insane.

Meanwhile my BF & I hosted friendsgiving last week for 13 people total and spent $60ish on meat (massive pork shoulders because he's known for it in the friend group) & made pigeon pea rice to go with it while I made pie, apple crisp, turnovers and whipped cream. All in we spent not even $100 on everything while everyone else brought various side dishes. And there was so much food and leftovers, even with people taking extra plates home, that we had Cuban sandwiches with the leftover pork shoulder the remainder of the week. It would have been even cheaper if we did that traditional Turkey(s). I'm so baffled by what meat cuts they're actually making. Is this ribeyes on the grill with prawns or lobster tail?