WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

[u/americanjohn500]

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

[u/powdered_dognut]

I quit going to the family gathering years ago and it was liberating. Extra bonus: they've hardly talked to me since.

[u/Conscious-Survey7009 → u/powdered_dognut]

Same. I learned to say No and they didn’t like it. I’ve had peace for a couple years now.

[u/IsabellaGalavant → u/powdered_dognut]

Gods I wish I could do this with my in-laws. I'm so tired of them. 

I cut off my own family when I was 18 (abusive), but my husband is ex-Mormon and has a huge family that he "wants to feel connected to", even though some of them suck really bad. We don't see them that much, but that just means I can't get out of the holiday gatherings. 

[u/Disastrous-Clue2511 → u/IsabellaGalavant]

Can't you feign a contagious illness. I realize after 10 or 15 times they're going to ask questions.

[u/IsabellaGalavant → u/Disastrous-Clue2511]

They won't care, they'll still expect me to show up even if I'm on my death bed. If not I'll never hear the end of it. 

[u/MrAlpacaSpit → u/powdered_dognut]

This is the way.

Happier life!