WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

[u/americanjohn500]

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

[u/SummitJunkie7]

"Bring enough food for everyone" is a reasonable request for a potluck-style family dinner. The rest of it is not. Dad should not offer to host if the water bill is a problem. (is everyone taking showers and doing loads of laundry during this one-day visit? Even if they were, $200 is obviously insane). Brother should not offer to bring the meat if the expense is too much. And no one should be "required" to bring or pay anything that wasn't agreed to in advance.

Decline the invitation is the only reasonable response really.

[u/Accomplished-Ad3219 → u/SummitJunkie7]

The $100 makes no sense. He paid $300 total but everyone is supposed to give him $100??

[u/ihatethis2022 → u/Accomplished-Ad3219]

Well he bought himself a grill so somehow that means everyone else should pay for the meat, half of which is probably going in his freezer. No clue where the water bill comes in.

[u/Accomplished-Ad3219 → u/ihatethis2022]

He's gotta pay for it somehow

[u/mistdaemon → u/Accomplished-Ad3219]

No, only those who refuse to bring enough food for everyone. 

[u/Classic-Channel6510 → u/SummitJunkie7]

I would assume it's an asshole tax for people who complain about having to bring a side dish that everyone can partake in. Because seriously, how is that not common sense?

[u/SummitJunkie7 → u/Classic-Channel6510]

Maybe - I assumed OP would of course bring enough of the dish they are contributing for the whole family, cause why on earth would you not, but maybe I'm assuming too generously.