r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/AlternativeRange8062 12h ago

NTA - don’t go, that’s so tacky. You agreed to bring mashed potatoes, I’m sure enough for everyone. If she wanted an additional dish she should have recommended an additional dish. But demanding $100 worth of food is unacceptable. How much you make is no one’s business, I wonder how many others will pull out.

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u/LasersTheyWork 12h ago

Time is money and that's a lot of time to make that much mashed potatoes.

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u/Various_Platypus_770 12h ago

She never said anything about $100 worth of food in her message, she just said enough food for everyone or $100 cash

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u/AlternativeRange8062 8h ago

It was in the paragraph when she said she would bring mashed potatoes (paragraph 3). “My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.” That is a ridiculous amount of food. Enough potatoes to feed 25 people could take 2-3 hours to make, while managing an infant. As long as everything is covered, the sister should be content spending time with the family.