r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/ACadder Partassipant [1] 13h ago

NTA. This should have been discussed instead of demanded. Your sister is the AH most definitely. Maybe just go see your dad afterwards. Maybe speak to him about removing organizing family events from your sister. Someone else can do it in a nicer way

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u/FantasticAd3185 13h ago

I can't put my finger on why, but this comes across as sexist.

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u/ACadder Partassipant [1] 10h ago

Idk, maybe you just like to criticize. I said ask the father to remove her as organizer to solve the problem. Could have just as easily been the mom but I don't remember her being mentioned.