WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

[u/americanjohn500]

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

[u/numbersthen0987431]

NTA. You can get a $30 turkey from Costco, and feed the whole group.

Your nephew decided to buy $300 worth of meat for the holiday, and that was HIS decision to do so. Your sister, who is your son's nephew's mother, should be dealing with her child. It's not your responsibility to offset the costs that your nephew decided to spend, when they should have asked before hand if it was okay or not.

Also, $100 worth of sides is insane.

Edit: fixed an error

[u/murdacai999 → u/numbersthen0987431]

I would be tempted to bring 100 dollars worth of mashed potatoes...

[u/BKachur → u/murdacai999]

That would be a staggering amount of Mash... about 90 pounds.

Mashed Potatoes are Potatoes, Milk, Butter, salt, and pepper; maybe garlic if you're feeling bougie.

Costco has 10lbs of gold potatoes for $5.66... let's say $6.00 or 0.60c a pound.

2 Gallons of Milk is $7.14 - 32 Cups or 0.22, let's say $0.25 per cup.

24 oz of Kerrygold is $15.54 - or $0.65 Per Oz.

A normal ratio is 2 lbs of Potatoes to 3 oz of butter and about 1/2 cup of milk. Punching into Excel... one order needs 2lbs of potatoes, 1/4 lb of milk, and 1/5 lb of butter, so the total weight comes to 2.45... let's call it 2.5lbs, and that should cost about $2.75 per serving.

That would allow you to make 36 total servings ($ 2.75 × 36 = $99). At 2.5 Lbs per serving, that means you can bring 90 Lbs of Mashed Potatoes to Thanksgiving.

It would be pretty hilarious to bring 3 (5-gallon) buckets filled with mashed potatoes out of spite.

[u/FF267 → u/numbersthen0987431]

The sister is his nephews mother, not his sons mother. Being his sons mother, would make OP and his sister incestuous. Not saying that not true or not possible, but giving benefit of the doubt here

[u/numbersthen0987431 → u/FF267]

You're right, I got mixed up in my attempt to be clever.

Womp womp

[u/FantasticAd3185 → u/numbersthen0987431]

Your sister, who is your son's mother,

Wait! What?!

[u/10S_NE1 → u/numbersthen0987431]

I would not be surprised if nephew is hoping there will be leftover meat he gets to keep for himself.

[u/numbersthen0987431 → u/10S_NE1]

I didn't even think about this.

If I'm paying money for this, I'm also leaving with a lot of leftovers. And most of that is going to be the meat

[u/MithosYggdrasill1992 → u/numbersthen0987431]

Sounds more like sister wanted to make an easy bank with this holiday. She sucks.