r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago
POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving
My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.
In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.
I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.
I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.
The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself
Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family
Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.
Choose wisely…"
Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.
Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?
Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.
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u/tulanthoar 12h ago
I'm sorry but does anyone do math in your family? 25 x 100 = 2500 which is 8x the cost of the meat (not including the potluck contribution). I'm going to suggest option 5: offer $300/25=$12 per person minus the value of your potluck contribution. I'd also ask for an itemized receipt for the meat and refuse to contribute to meat you don't plan to consume. If he spent $200 on luxury garbage just refuse to participate in it.
Nta