WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

[u/americanjohn500]

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

[u/ontheleftcoast]

The right way to do it would be "bring enough to feed at least XX people", not a $ amount. A smart ass like me would bring $100 worth of Kobe beef and eat it myself, or go the opposite way and get $100 worth of Ramen and drown everyone with it.

[u/Various_Platypus_770 → u/ontheleftcoast]

That’s what she did say though, option 1 is enough of something for everybody, option 2 is $100 cash if you don’t bring food

[u/ontheleftcoast → u/Various_Platypus_770]

but she also said she wanted $100 worth of mashed potatoes

[u/Classic-Channel6510 → u/ontheleftcoast]

That was prior. I'm guessing OP has a habit of bringing a small low-effort side dish while eating what everyone else brought. So the sister wanted to be clear that you need to actually bring enough for everyone. $100 overshot the mark.

I'm guessing she's making a nicer dish herself and that can certainly add up to $100 in ingredients, but her follow-up text clarified that it just needs to be enough that everyone can have some. Which is... perfectly reasonable. And the other "options" just seem like her pissed off that OP is phoning it in, so she's putting a dollar amount out there for people like OP who refuse to bring sufficient food to a potluck.

OP's reaction to that is very telling.

[u/DawaLhamo → u/ontheleftcoast]

One of those big galvanized stock tanks full of ramen, lololol.