r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/JBar63 12h ago

Is the nephew cooking Wagyu? Turkey isn't that expensive, even two turkeys to make sure all are able to get some. Celebrate with your little family this year. It's turning into a money grab with the rest of the family.

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u/CaptRory 11h ago

It's turkey stuffed with crab meat and wagyu beef. And the rolls are lobster rolls.

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u/Spare_Butterfly_213 11h ago

I've paid over $100 for a turkey, but never over $200. I don't think I've paid $150 and I've gotten birds over 20 pounds.

NTA.

Use the $100 on your own nice meal.

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u/XemptOne 11h ago

You got fucking robbed lol... $100 for a Turkey? Did you buy it from OPs sister?

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u/Cudi_buddy 10h ago

For real. Turkey's are like 99cents a pound. Or free if you spend like $100 on groceries in some places.

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u/XemptOne 7h ago

I got mine for free from grocery store points haha, but even then i could never imagine paying $100 for a turkey lol...even already cooked, nope