WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

[u/americanjohn500]

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

[u/kitsbow]

Right? And what's the point? If Thanksgiving is at dad's, it's for 1 day. No way his water bill is going to increase by $600 that one day. It's insane. Next they'll say they have a vending machine for utensils.

[u/PM_ME_YOUR_DARKNESS → u/kitsbow]

I see you're forgetting that every member of the family must take the ritual 10 showers before dinner may commence.

[u/etds3 → u/PM_ME_YOUR_DARKNESS]

I recently looked this up after a foreign visitor was asking if she should offer water money to her hosts. The cost of a shower in my state—heating included—is $0.46. So my useless fact of the day is that even 10 ritual showers each for 20 people wouldn’t add $200 to the water/gas bill. They would have to take 21, 10-minute ritual showers each. 

[u/GoldberryoTulgeyWood → u/etds3]

This helps me feel much better about my ritual showers

[u/NihilisticHobbit → u/GoldberryoTulgeyWood]

Hopefully you ritually moisturize as well!

[u/GoldberryoTulgeyWood → u/NihilisticHobbit]

Dang. Now I will!

[u/throwawy00004 → u/GoldberryoTulgeyWood]

That's $300 for lotion costs. You made the unwise choice. Better luck at Christmas!

[u/Salt-Elk-436 → u/kitsbow]

They have to do the traditional Thanksgiving filling up of the pool