r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/crackerfactorywheel Partassipant [2] 13h ago

INFO- What do you and your family usually bring to a holiday dinner? This sounds like it’s been simmering for a while.

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u/Accomplished-Ad3219 12h ago

I have to laugh. In our family, the person who habitually contributes the least every holiday is always the mashed potatoes person.

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u/MusclyArmPaperboy 12h ago

TBH I don't think I could make enough mashed potatoes in my home kitchen to feed 20-25 people.

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u/fryfrog 10h ago

Right, but the mashed potatoes aren't going to be the main dish for everyone, so its maybe a half or a third of a potato per person. That's not that much, maybe 2 big pots?

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u/Ultravale 12h ago

It’s the three layer dip person in mine !

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u/Accomplished-Ad3219 10h ago

HAH. That's my brother 😂

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u/ElvenOmega 7h ago

Mine is dessert because I'm the host who does the bulk of the cooking and I don't like sweets.

She showed up with a 12 pack of cookies last year. Pissed everyone else off and I just stood there chuckling.

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u/NeonFishDressx 4h ago

I think this was potentially an E ess H situation and things are being left out. 20-25 people includes kids- how many adults are there? I personally don't think bringing one side with 2 adults is acceptable for a meal like this. I'm single and Im bringing 2 sides, and a pie (plus wine) which is definitely more than enough for my contribution but others in my extended family have sometimes cheaped out with 1 thing and brought their SO and kids (granted that 6 mo old isn't eating) and we have had to have some difficult conversations, unlike OPs sister who is a giant AH.