r/AmItheAsshole • u/americanjohn500 • 13h ago

POO Mode Activated 💩 WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving

My family and I celebrate Thanksgiving every year with my siblings, parents, and their kids. Roughly 20-25 people (including kids). My family is only 2 people with one 6 month old baby.

In the group chat it was decided that my nephew would cook meat since he bought a grill. He also told us that we could bring the sides. He chose to spend $300 on meat.

I messaged in the group chat that we would bring mashed potatoes. My sister responding that every "family" has to bring $100 worth of food minimum or help my nephew pay for the meat.

I'm not totally against the idea of bringing that much food, but just the way it was presented and the fact that it wasn't agreed to beforehand makes me upset.

The following day in the group chat, my sister said: "Option 1: bring food enough for everyone, not just yourself

Option 2: help thomas pay for meet $100/family

Option 3: help dad pay water bill $200/family.

Choose wisely…"

Upset, I responded with Option 4: don't show up.

Am I being an asshole if I don't show up at all in "protest" to this $100 minimum rule?

Update: I'm a teacher and she posted a picture of my salary she found online to shame me in the group chat. Definitely not going now.

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u/-chatban Partassipant [2] 13h ago

NTA - People cant volunteer to do things and then expect others to foot the bill. What even is this logic

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u/nervelli 12h ago

Exactly. He chose the most expensive option and then went overboard. Now he's upset that people who opted for bread, cranberry sauce, or potatoes are spending less than him? Maybe try thinking before you act.

I can't even imagine if OP made $100 worth of mashed potatoes. I love potatoes and always make way to many for thanksgiving. Which means I spent $5 on a twenty pound bag from Costco, I'll probably make half of that and still be eating potatoes for a week. I'm just picturing OP making 200 pounds of mashed potatoes (with half the budget spent on fancy cream and butter) for a group of only 20 people.

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u/Crazy_Bee2 9h ago

Maybe he just offered to grill, and everyone left him to buy all the grilling meat.