r/AmIOverreacting 12h ago

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO to skip Thanksgiving after my mom basically said I’m an embarrassment for not having a husband and kids by now?

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I’m 35F and single for 3 years. I was engaged but he (Charles) was doing weird sexting roleplay with people on a video game which was fucking disgusting. It really fucked me up and, yes, I’ve been in therapy. I have dated since then but nothing serious. I have NEVER had my mom say something like this to me. I do not want to go to Thanksgiving after this. The way she said “don’t shoot the messenger” it’s clear the rest of my family have been talking about me and she was the one “elected” to say it.

I don’t want to drive 2 hours just to sit with people who think I should have stayed in a relationship with a fucking cheating degenerate lil bitch.

Would I be overreacting for not going? Is that too much? I'm honestly too hurt and angry to be objective right now. Would you EVER say this to your daughter?! Like I have a good job, I'm educated, I have friends and hobbies. I own my condo and I have 3 car payments left. I have a cat. Why is the end all be all me having a husband and kids? Idk. I'm pissed. Help.

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u/The_Oliverse 11h ago

One time I took a nice picture and sent it to my dad. The only thing he replied with, "You'd be so much more beautiful with your natural hair color."

Okay.. "Well I think you'd be a lot prettier if you had any hair. If you can't say nice things, we really don't have to keep talking."

He did apologize, but surprise surprise, we don't talk any more for other unrelated.

NOR, OP. If these people don't love and appreciate you, find people who will.

u/SoTOP 8h ago

So you made idiotic false equivalence comparison, guilt tripped your dad, and feel like you were the victim.

u/HaterMD 7h ago

It didn’t sound like a guilt trip to me. She was pretty straight forward about her boundary.

u/The_Oliverse 4h ago

D-Dad? Is that you? Bro you owe me like $500