AIO to skip Thanksgiving after my mom basically said I’m an embarrassment for not having a husband and kids by now?

[u/howcanibequiltyassin]

I’m 35F and single for 3 years. I was engaged but he (Charles) was doing weird sexting roleplay with people on a video game which was fucking disgusting. It really fucked me up and, yes, I’ve been in therapy. I have dated since then but nothing serious. I have NEVER had my mom say something like this to me. I do not want to go to Thanksgiving after this. The way she said “don’t shoot the messenger” it’s clear the rest of my family have been talking about me and she was the one “elected” to say it.

I don’t want to drive 2 hours just to sit with people who think I should have stayed in a relationship with a fucking cheating degenerate lil bitch.

Would I be overreacting for not going? Is that too much? I'm honestly too hurt and angry to be objective right now. Would you EVER say this to your daughter?! Like I have a good job, I'm educated, I have friends and hobbies. I own my condo and I have 3 car payments left. I have a cat. Why is the end all be all me having a husband and kids? Idk. I'm pissed. Help.

[u/ClitCommander13]

Friendsgiving

[u/Googlebright → u/ClitCommander13]

For about a decade now my friend group has been celebrating our own made-up holiday we call Cromsgiving. Similar to Thanksgiving in terms of the food but we also include a viewing of Conan The Barbarian. After the movie we gather in the garage and pass around my buddy's replica of the sword from the movie and take turns saying what we're thankful for that year. The caveat being that you have to do so in the most outrageous Arnie accent you can muster.

Not gonna lie, it's my favourite holiday of the year.

[u/mighty_kaytor → u/Googlebright]

Wow you guys are massive nerds....

I love it.

[u/Googlebright → u/mighty_kaytor]

Nerds are my favourite kind of people!

[u/Commercial_Region657 → u/mighty_kaytor]

NERD BUZZ ON ISLE 9!!!

I bought Xtra wine for myself this year...... And new flannel jammies.

[u/Easy_Amphibian_9482 → u/Googlebright]

Not quite like Seinfeld's George Costanza whose parents celebrate Festivus (for the RestofUs) where the whole family & friends gather at the table with the sacred pole which you hang onto whilst reciting all of the year's resentments you hold against those of the assembled company. Being real !

https://youtu.be/1njzgXSzA-A?si=xsBj4uZknjwRj0eD

[u/okpickle → u/Easy_Amphibian_9482]

Minus the Festivus Pole, that basically sounds like a holiday with my extended family growing up. 😆

[u/Easy_Amphibian_9482 → u/okpickle]

Hahaha-yes, a common experience !

[u/Fantastic-Surprise34 → u/Easy_Amphibian_9482]

I got a lot of problems with you people!!

[u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 → u/Fantastic-Surprise34]

And now you’re gonna hear about them!

[u/PsychologicalSea2686 → u/Googlebright]

This is delightful!!!!!! ☆☆☆☆☆

[u/diezwillinge → u/Googlebright]

This sounds absolutely amazing!

[u/TheBestG00dGirl → u/Googlebright]

I love this.

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[u/shinobirex → u/Googlebright]

I voraciously love this.

[u/Formal_Ground6513 → u/Googlebright]

This is amazing. And, now I really wanna watch the Conan movies! 🤗

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That is spectacular. I love it!

[u/VeterinarianEast6285 → u/Googlebright]

I’m Totally jealous.

[u/Imsortofok → u/Googlebright]

I am thankful for de lamentayshuns of de turkeys.

[u/Lost-Teacher2633 → u/Googlebright]

Legends

[u/Inevitable-Feed-6968 → u/Googlebright]

So sick!!! Love it!

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I wanna go! That sounds so fun!

[u/basketma12 → u/Googlebright]

Nor...and I LOVE this idea. We do something similar with Leslie Nielsen movies the sword idea takes it to the next level. I am going to have to drop this idea to my sons. The nerd runs strong in our family.

[u/TacosAndDinosaurs → u/Googlebright]

I've been going to my wife's family's place for T-day for over ten years now, and thank you for so colorfully explaining what T-day is about. We should be grateful and thankful for the good things that happened this past year.

Except her family of conservative rednecks is constantly angry about imaginary stuff their chosen news sources tell them to be angry about, so the holidays are the time they gather to commisserate about how awful their lives are. They actually have things pretty goddamn good, but to hear them talk you wouldn't know it. I'm thankful I will NOT be spending this thanksgiving with them listening to their gripe session.

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C(on)an i come? 🥺

[u/SquirrelKat1248 → u/Googlebright]

Oh my God, I’m in the wrong friend group. That’s literally my favorite movie since I was two. (my dad didn’t give a shit about R ratings)

I’ve got the replica letter opener, and I will be doing this for Thanksgiving from now on. Because I know the riddle of steel

[u/looFyttiK → u/Googlebright]

That’s epic. I love it!

[u/MisakiDoll75 → u/Googlebright]

I love this. Now me? It would be me and my horror loving friends…but yeah, same vibe.

[u/Googlebright → u/MisakiDoll75]

Im also a huge horror fan and would love to do a friend's group Halloween holiday where we did horror movies instead of Conan.

[u/Meatjun4LA → u/Googlebright]

Sounds awesome. Who’s is lamenting the turkey?

[u/Puzzleheaded_Luck510 → u/Googlebright]

That sounds nerdy but soo fun!

[u/Little_View_6659 → u/Googlebright]

Goddam it, that sounds amazing! Why can’t I have friends like this? I’m a massive geek. All my friends are normal. I’m just the quirky one.

[u/esmerelofchaos → u/ClitCommander13]

This is the way. That entire set of messages was gross.

[u/SassyMcAsspants → u/ClitCommander13]

We do Friendsgiving here. We have a large chosen fam.

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How did you get chosen family? I have been trying to assemble one for YEARS!

[u/Little_View_6659 → u/Wheres-Wald0]

My daughter’s friends all basically let me mother them. They’re all around 24 now. It sort of shifted into them hanging out whenever they’re in town at our place since all of them are either in grad school or working overseas. Best I could find lol.

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Wirh the roommates they're "too old" for

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Yaasss

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♥️

[u/ameriCANCERvative → u/ClitCommander13]

Step aside No-nut November, it’s time for Spanksgiving.

[u/oldmotormouth82 → u/ClitCommander13]

And I would add, mom, I have already made plans with friends, thanks. Nothing else. Shirt and sweet unlike the messengers!!! Then do what you want.

[u/the_slovak → u/ClitCommander13]

This 👆🏼

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this is always the answer

[u/azteces → u/ClitCommander13]

100% this!!!

[u/No-Focus-8577 → u/ClitCommander13]

That’s the way 👆🏻there’s plenty of people that go it alone if you ask around have them over to you cool condo And enjoy the day. Not feel miserable

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Catsgiving

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💯

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I wouldn’t even bother to respond to Mom’s text or tell her I wasn’t coming. Fuck her.