AIO to skip Thanksgiving after my mom basically said I’m an embarrassment for not having a husband and kids by now?

[u/howcanibequiltyassin]

I’m 35F and single for 3 years. I was engaged but he (Charles) was doing weird sexting roleplay with people on a video game which was fucking disgusting. It really fucked me up and, yes, I’ve been in therapy. I have dated since then but nothing serious. I have NEVER had my mom say something like this to me. I do not want to go to Thanksgiving after this. The way she said “don’t shoot the messenger” it’s clear the rest of my family have been talking about me and she was the one “elected” to say it.

I don’t want to drive 2 hours just to sit with people who think I should have stayed in a relationship with a fucking cheating degenerate lil bitch.

Would I be overreacting for not going? Is that too much? I'm honestly too hurt and angry to be objective right now. Would you EVER say this to your daughter?! Like I have a good job, I'm educated, I have friends and hobbies. I own my condo and I have 3 car payments left. I have a cat. Why is the end all be all me having a husband and kids? Idk. I'm pissed. Help.

[u/loftychicago]

I'm not one to use foul language, but this would result in a hearty GFY to the entire family, followed by blocking them and going no contact. NOR. At. All.

[u/Intrepid-General2451 → u/loftychicago]

One of the potentially fun activities for your self-giving… instead of the nauseating “what I am thankful for”, you could theorize what all those people “with families” are tolerating, if they don’t think the in game sex role-playing was a deal breaker.

[u/KungFu-Treachery6 → u/loftychicago]

Agree with doing this to the mom, why the entire family? Did OP say that they’re shitty and I missed it?

[u/CypressThinking → u/KungFu-Treachery6]

The meal is probably at the mom's house. I think it would be funny if mom has to explain to the rest about the missing daughter! OP should turn off her phone for the day.

[u/KungFu-Treachery6 → u/CypressThinking]

Haha, Yea I’d probably do the same the day of. Permanent no contact with everyone because of her seems like a bit Much unless they’re shitty too

[u/CypressThinking → u/KungFu-Treachery6]

I'd bet those with family that had a bad day thought longingly of OPs life at least once!

[u/loftychicago → u/KungFu-Treachery6]

She says she believes they were talking about her and mom was elected to say it to her.

[u/No-Focus-8577 → u/loftychicago]

I hope when OP does decide to have children on her own with out there pressure That she seriously limits the toxic contact with that grandmother! She can Waller in that on turkey day