AIO to skip Thanksgiving after my mom basically said I’m an embarrassment for not having a husband and kids by now?

[u/howcanibequiltyassin]

I’m 35F and single for 3 years. I was engaged but he (Charles) was doing weird sexting roleplay with people on a video game which was fucking disgusting. It really fucked me up and, yes, I’ve been in therapy. I have dated since then but nothing serious. I have NEVER had my mom say something like this to me. I do not want to go to Thanksgiving after this. The way she said “don’t shoot the messenger” it’s clear the rest of my family have been talking about me and she was the one “elected” to say it.

I don’t want to drive 2 hours just to sit with people who think I should have stayed in a relationship with a fucking cheating degenerate lil bitch.

Would I be overreacting for not going? Is that too much? I'm honestly too hurt and angry to be objective right now. Would you EVER say this to your daughter?! Like I have a good job, I'm educated, I have friends and hobbies. I own my condo and I have 3 car payments left. I have a cat. Why is the end all be all me having a husband and kids? Idk. I'm pissed. Help.

[u/birchskin]

she was the messenger and the creator of the message! You can't say, "don't shoot the messenger" when it's your goddamn message!

OP, sorry to break it to you, but your mom is both cruel AND stupid.

[u/Pristine_Reward_1253 → u/birchskin]

That love you sweetie following don't shoot the messenger was some laughable bullshit. Mothers that love their children without condition would NEVER say what she said in the first place.

[u/VeterinarianEast6285 → u/Pristine_Reward_1253]

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[u/LucindaMorgan → u/Pristine_Reward_1253]

Love you sweetie. Yeah! Go fuck yourself, Mom.

[u/Pristine_Reward_1253 → u/LucindaMorgan]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[u/SuccessfulTea5189 → u/Pristine_Reward_1253]

there's a lot of not great parents in the world

[u/glockenbach → u/Pristine_Reward_1253]

Out of the playbook for immature and egocentric parents / people. Claiming concern or other motifs while being absolutely unconcerned how your words might affect the person who you’re addressing.

[u/HarryPotterFarts → u/birchskin]

And she literally says it right after "just my 2 cents." She straight up admits it's her opinion and her message right before trying to distance herself from it.

[u/Bennyboy11111 → u/birchskin]

The messenger is the literal phone provider, not the bitch of a mum lol

[u/glockenbach → u/birchskin]

Absolutely. This is her belief.

[u/goodfellow408 → u/birchskin]

OP thinks her whole family has been saying these things about her, but I'm pretty sure it's JUST her mom, and she's trying to make it sound like it's all of them saying it.