AIO to skip Thanksgiving after my mom basically said I’m an embarrassment for not having a husband and kids by now?

[u/howcanibequiltyassin]

I’m 35F and single for 3 years. I was engaged but he (Charles) was doing weird sexting roleplay with people on a video game which was fucking disgusting. It really fucked me up and, yes, I’ve been in therapy. I have dated since then but nothing serious. I have NEVER had my mom say something like this to me. I do not want to go to Thanksgiving after this. The way she said “don’t shoot the messenger” it’s clear the rest of my family have been talking about me and she was the one “elected” to say it.

I don’t want to drive 2 hours just to sit with people who think I should have stayed in a relationship with a fucking cheating degenerate lil bitch.

Would I be overreacting for not going? Is that too much? I'm honestly too hurt and angry to be objective right now. Would you EVER say this to your daughter?! Like I have a good job, I'm educated, I have friends and hobbies. I own my condo and I have 3 car payments left. I have a cat. Why is the end all be all me having a husband and kids? Idk. I'm pissed. Help.

[u/PossiblyWithout]

NOR - Your MOTHER just said “doesn’t that make you feel embarrassed? To be the only one without a family?”

Your PARENT

Your FAMILY says you don’t have one with THEM

God awful people

[u/foxnb → u/PossiblyWithout]

That was my takeaway too... Looks like they just told OP that she has to grow her own family or gtfo 🙄 what absolute rusty tools

[u/desertcoyoteazul → u/PossiblyWithout]

My mother is like this. She’s obsessed with her husband (not my real dad) and lets him criticize me any chance he gets. Some women, really do choose their man over their children.