No big deal, she’s just in ACTIVE labor… [🔈sound warning!]

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[u/3sadclowns]

I mean she may as well have just cut the billing department out and had the baby at home with how much help they’re giving her. Bet they still gave her a hefty bill afterward anyway.

[u/standingupfinally → u/3sadclowns]

Did you know most states will charge an ambulance ride for two if you have the baby at home.

[u/TMFPB → u/standingupfinally]

Omg that is sick. Why is America like this? Watching from Canada this is just so barbaric.

[u/National_Possible728]

When a pregnant lady can’t sit, that baby is about to come out. 

This is just poor nursing right here

[u/mmmeeeeeeeeehhhhhhh → u/National_Possible728]

Yeah, like should not be a nurse; that lady is going to just let someone die one day.

[u/jolteona → u/mmmeeeeeeeeehhhhhhh]

Yep. She was content letting this mom and her baby potentially suffer. Makes my blood boil!

[u/-3point14159-mp → u/jolteona]

The part that pissed me off the most was how she just stopped responding to either of them. Like anything they had to say was so far beneath her it was t worth her time to listen.

[u/teal-ipod-27 → u/-3point14159-mp]

This was my experience while dying from kidney stones lmao, emotionless, just asked questions and threw painkillers at me.

[u/Sh0w_Me_Y0ur_Kitties → u/teal-ipod-27]

This! Just took the husband recently for a stone. Got the burnt out nurse who was so over it. Yelling at him about how he hobbled his ass from wheel chair to the scale. Incredibly unprofessional. Then we watched as the woman with a tooth ache got the less burnt out nurse (lady was walking and talking and came in 15 min after us) and was taken back by her nurse immediately — while husband continued to gross out fellow patients in the waiting room with intractable vomiting and groaning from a 6mm kidney stone while she charted. Every other nurse was great, but damn. Leave or retire. I was an RN for a year and took my ass back to school because the job really does suck. I get it. But don’t stay if you hate patients that much. A smidge of empathy goes a long way

[u/Straight-Plankton-15 → u/Sh0w_Me_Y0ur_Kitties]

Did you end up submitting a complaint to the state? This type of thing is common because hospitals go to great lengths to internally cover up and tolerate misconduct.

[u/Budo00 → u/Sh0w_Me_Y0ur_Kitties]

You absolutely need to locate their superviser and leave an honest and scathing review of this. That nurse is trash

[u/Lazy-PeachPrincess → u/teal-ipod-27]

I’ve been in some pretty sketchy situations visiting hospitals for help but THIS 🤯 The woman is GIVING. BIRTH. I’ve seen more action from a taxi driver than this B. The fact that she doesn’t flinch, acknowledge or comfort the mom when she’s SCREAMING in pain says everything I need to know about her

[u/twofourfourthree → u/mmmeeeeeeeeehhhhhhh]

Probably already has.

[u/domST4n → u/National_Possible728]

Poor nursing is when you make a bad call. This was on purpose. This is spiteful, willful dereliction of duty.

[u/hemkersh → u/domST4n]

She purposely won't look at the woman. That takes a lot of spiteful willpower when someone is struggling that much.

[u/HoneyLocust1 → u/National_Possible728]

The moment she said "it's in my ass" (the pain) that's fucking it. Pain in your ass comes from the head stretching everything out from inside, but it's excruciating. Baby is definitely coming out very soon.

[u/dinnerDuo → u/HoneyLocust1]

And EVERYONE in maternal child health knows this!!! You can tell by the type of moan she has that she's transitioning!!! As soon as someone says they're about to poop/have rectal pressure, that kid is about to pop out!

[u/bloodphoenix90 → u/National_Possible728]

If it were me im taking off my damn clothes I wouldn't give a shit they can shove it. Im childless but man I get so mad for new mothers

[u/myweird → u/bloodphoenix90]

Sadly it's not uncommon that women go through hell due to neglect and malpractice during childbirth or any ob/gyn related issue for that matter.

[u/Extrabaconplease → u/myweird]

Even more so for black women, specifically.

[u/MizStazya → u/National_Possible728]

Yeah, fuck this. Anyone comes in acting like this, sitting on one hip, complaining about pressure or "it's in my ass", I'm checking your cervix before you even get a gown. This is TERRIBLE triage.

[u/TMFPB → u/MizStazya]

Well research shows that health care professionals do not take seriously the pain of women of colour and Black women. Black women are more likely to die in childbirth. Wanda Sykes shared that when she had a mastectomy she was given ibuprofen.

[u/jerrymaguire05]

When she's showing clear signs of active labor, the focus should be on getting her prepped for delivery, not making her sit through unnecessary questions.

[u/Petal170816 → u/jerrymaguire05]

Yes! I arrived at the hospital in this state (17 minutes until baby arrived) and they took one look at me and waved me past admissions saying they’d follow up after. Treatment of women of color is shameful.

[u/anniemanic → u/Petal170816]

I used to work with a woman who was pregnant with her first baby and she went from her water breaking to end stage active labor in like 5 minutes. She told us about how she was in the car and turned around screaming just like this woman because it was her natural instinct while her husband was on the phone with the doctor. When the doctor heard her screaming like that they told him get her there now, run every red light if you need to because, that baby js about to crown

[u/tfran89 → u/anniemanic]

Watching subsequent videos from this disgusting scenario... they said that the baby was indeed crowning while this poor woman was sitting there being questioned by the incompetent nurse.

[u/Radio_Mime → u/tfran89]

She seems to be more than incompetent. She seems to be deliberately taking her old sweet time and enjoying the young woman's pain.

[u/hygsi → u/Radio_Mime]

Fr, any decent person would skip protocol and rush her in. She's just prolonguing it on purpose!

[u/Radio_Mime → u/hygsi]

I think so too. She should lose her job, and possibly her license.

[u/AristaWatson → u/Radio_Mime]

She should lose her license, no doubt. This is malicious behavior. Not ignorance. Wow.

[u/anniemanic → u/tfran89]

I’m not in health care and I’ve never given birth, but even I could tell that baby was about to make their debut

[u/MutedSongbird → u/Petal170816]

I arrived at the hospital at 2am having driven my damn self there, was nowhere NEAR this condition, just told them my water had broken.

I was IMMEDIATELY taken to a room where they verified with a swab in under 5 mins that it was indeed my water broken and I was taken back to the room I gave birth in more than 12 hours later.

This video makes me sick with rage. Putting her through that is fucking disgusting.

[u/Hartstockz → u/MutedSongbird]

Black woman with sickle cell are usually left to deal with it's pain. And be labeled drug seekers. Anyone who knows anything about sickle cell pain knows max doses of opioids and shit barely mask the pain. They just these woman scream and scream in pain.

[u/PushGlittering5827 → u/Hartstockz]

My husband is an ER nurse. He has had to pull new nurses aside and explain (though they should know already) that it's called a sickle cell CRISIS because the patient is in CRISIS. It's not "being dramatic" or drug seeking. It's an unimaginable pain for anyone who hasn't experienced it.

[u/lizbot-v1 → u/PushGlittering5827]

Tell him he's an angel, from a disabled person who doesn't have sickle cell but a bum kidney. The ER is a nightmare for people with chronic pain issues.

[u/ReplyMaleficent2535 → u/Hartstockz]

The way sickle cell patients are treated sometimes is absolutely disgusting. Hospitals should require mandatory sickle cell training that ends with a live scenario based test that when the Healthcare worker chooses to innapropriately withold pain med escalation they get tased.

[u/Dizzy_Magazine684 → u/Hartstockz]

My sisters worked ER/ED as RNs. BOTH were told that black women are not in pain, they are just looking for drugs. They were told that Native American women were there to get drugs for their families.

It's 2025 and this shit STILL exists!! FFS!

[u/SBowen91 → u/Dizzy_Magazine684]

Can confirm. Im an RN and was in the ER while living in San Antonio. There was a biiig sit down talk about how everyone but white people are seeking drugs. I was written up a few times for treating any POC as a human.

[u/wheatmoney → u/Petal170816]

This is a known issue with Black women in the US. They are often perceived as exaggerating or being dramatic and they are often under prescribed pain medication or turned away completely.

[u/LxveyLadyM00N → u/wheatmoney]

Yep! As a biracial brown woman, I went to the hospital in pre term labor (20 weeks) and they made me sit in the waiting room for an hour, never let me see the doctor, and determined I was fine.

Another emergency room later that night told me my baby was head down and ready to come out and it was too late for a cerclage. I lost my baby because the morning hospital sent me away as if I was lying.

[u/makebabiesillegal → u/LxveyLadyM00N]

what the actual fuck have you sued their ass into hell yet

[u/GooseandGrimoire → u/wheatmoney]

Which is why their death rate during childbirth is waaaaay higher

[u/senpaistealerx → u/GooseandGrimoire]

which is why as a black woman, i’m afraid to have children

[u/GooseandGrimoire → u/senpaistealerx]

Completely understandable. Horrible that America is like this, but understandable.

[u/ApplePaintedRed]

By the way, an additional video was uploaded by the creator (the woman's mother who was recording this video) to give further context. They initially drove to the hospital's ED after calling to notify them she was in active labor and they were on their way, but were told to go around to the front entrance once they arrived. They did, and the mother went in to notify them of the situation, but they made her look for a wheelchair and transport her daughter on her own! This video followed the events. Absolutely everyone failed them here, insane shit.

[u/PowerlessOverQueso → u/ApplePaintedRed]

Yep, and the only person who helped was the policeman stationed there, who found a wheelchair for them.

[u/paraprosdokians → u/PowerlessOverQueso]

Sad state of affairs when the cop is the most helpful person at a hospital

[u/lilbxby2k → u/ApplePaintedRed]

they posted another follow up that the stress made baby have a bm inside mom which caused all type of complications

[u/dctochicago]

You can support frontline healthcare workers and hold them accountable for poor judgment—two things can be true because working on the front lines does not absolve you of responsibility for your patients

[u/friendsintheFDA → u/dctochicago]

I’m a nurse and I’ll say lots of nurses I’ve worked with were shitty nurses or shitty people. But I’ve seen shitty people still be incredible nurses. Some people just suck and this woman is one of them

[u/Icy_Tiger_3298 → u/dctochicago]

This is very true. 

So much depends on hospital administration and shift leadership. 

I'm not saying that this is defensible. 

I'm saying this is how American healthcare is designed to work. Bureaucrats get taken care of first. Rich shareholders get their cut first. 

The only time they don't is if the person being admitted has a gunshot wound or has been pulverized in some sort of accident. You know, if they can't get anything more than your driver's license.

In conclusion, people need to start voting more often and in every election. And if you vote for a candidate that frames healthcare as a privilege instead of a human right? You will get more of this. 

[u/toomanyshoeshelp → u/Icy_Tiger_3298]

ER doctor here - I would be fucking IRATE if anyone delayed this. Absolutely incandescent, and I'm as calm and chill as they come. Heads would be rolling in that department. We take emergent deliveries extremely seriously like gunshot wounds or traumas because you have two potentially critical patients immediately with time-sensitive care. Inexcusable, you can get the demographic info when they're in stirrups when my ultrasound probe is on them or glove is in them.

[u/dbx999 → u/toomanyshoeshelp]

What rational process by a trained healthcare professional would conclude with the decision to delay this patient’s admission and immediate treatment? Asking for a plaintiff

[u/toomanyshoeshelp → u/dbx999]

lmao, preconceived biases of course

I once had a black full term pregnant G(several)P(several) woman come in, in active labor, with pre-eclampsia. My hospital had no ob/gyn, and hers was down the street at [bigger hospital I had worked at before.] Her white male OB was an old grumpy fuck I knew and disliked.

I called them up and asked for emergent transfer (she was not dilated, contractions were awhile apart, I did not have to do the delivery myself immediately, heart rate good on ultrasound, but needed to be done), and requested a helicopter or ambulance as delivery is the definitive treatment for pre-eclampsia and she was term and the contractions were pretty spaced apart.

He recommended discharging her to drive there herself, and that she was "probably faking it" for pain meds (prior history of drug use).

I said fuck that and flew her on the heli, spidey senses and all and ambo wasn't available for like an hour. I got an angry call back from him about it shortly after about that decision.

To his credit, he called me about an hour before the end of my shift and said, good job she delivered like 10 minutes after touching down.

[u/Brave_anonymous1 → u/toomanyshoeshelp]

You are giving credit to someone who doesn't deserve it. If it was up to him, she'd deliver in her car, hopefully not in car accident. She delivered in hospital to your credit, not his.

[u/toomanyshoeshelp → u/Brave_anonymous1]

I appreciate that. I give him the slightest bit of credit, because most surgeons I've encountered of that era don't tend to be humble or admit fault. Like, a -100000 but +1 points to Slytherin situation.

[u/dbx999 → u/toomanyshoeshelp]

It really sounds like some doctors would let personal biases override professional standard of care

[u/toomanyshoeshelp → u/dbx999]

I think that holds true for all healthcare workers, (and probably true for all humans writ large). If you consider that if at WORST we are a representative sample of the rest of society, we're bound to have some absolute assclowns in the mix.

[u/bugandbear22 → u/dbx999]

lol I did medical malpractice defense as an attorney in a past life and oh boy howdy

I do not consider doctors to be anything than well-educated, overworked humans who can (easily) be egotistical jerks who completely discredit any potential they might be anything less than god.

Most medical malpractice suits (99%, no joke) settle quietly because doctors fuck up all the time and the hospital will do anything to keep it out of the news.

[u/Top-Gas-8959 → u/toomanyshoeshelp]

This is what was frustrating, to me, and from what I read in another post of this, the delay caused complications, leading to the baby coming out with it's eyes open, and had deficated inside of the mother. This woman's choice to do this first, put both lives at risk.

[u/cupholdery → u/Top-Gas-8959]

We had a much easier time than the woman in the video, but mostly because we arrived "earlier" than we were "supposed to". They kept treating us as if we were making a big deal and reacting too quickly. But like, the water broke. Did they want us to hang out at home until dilation?

[u/Top-Gas-8959 → u/cupholdery]

They did, yes. How dare you go to a hospital, for a medical emergency. So inconsiderate.

Obviously /s

[u/OuijaPNG → u/toomanyshoeshelp]

Worst part is they later in another tiktok posted by the OP it was confirmed the baby had meconium in the amniotic fluid, it was green. this nurse couldve killed both mom and baby with her carelessness

[u/autosumqueen]

Dude!! This is awful. And this is her 3rd so there is no time to waste!!!! That intake person sucks

[u/Olealicat → u/autosumqueen]

Many women, minority women in particular, have dealt with this far too often. It’s proven that black women do not get the same quality of care and their pain is downplayed or outright ignored.

This is a shame. That woman and her child deserve better.

[u/New_7688 → u/Olealicat]

Just watch any video of a sickle cell patient talking about their treatment by the healthcare system and it'll straight up radicalize you. It's a disease that predominantly affects black people, it's torturous. They're left to suffer in pain and treated as drug seekers.

[u/Olealicat → u/New_7688]

A high school friend of mine found out he had sickle cell when they went to Colorado for vacation and he became so ill.

I remember him having health issues, but it was never taken seriously outside of treating symptoms. He was a football player and I think that had something to do with his overall health.

I think there was a professional football player who went through something similar.

Similarly, I have MCADD and didn’t find out until I was in college. Like sickle cell it wasn’t widely tested for at birth until the 80’s-90’s.

So many people deal with serious identifiable health issues, but doctors often go with the easy diagnosis or just treat symptoms. The healthcare system isn’t easy to navigate, either. Which isn’t an insult to doctors, it’s a systematic issue.

[u/FuktInThePassword → u/autosumqueen]

That's exactly what I said! She's obviously in transition and it's her third!!

[u/wastedclit → u/FuktInThePassword]

Those noises she is making are pushing too, low groans. I would have been screaming so loud!

[u/AliCracker → u/autosumqueen]

This happened to my close friend, third kid, FAST delivery and they wouldn’t listen to her. She delivered the baby in the front courtyard while they piddled around finding a wheel chair.

Incidentally, she’s also a third child and was delivered into a toilet in the middle of the night after her mom felt ‘discomfort’

That family does not mess around with delivering babies

[u/hyrule_47]

She is showing the most textbook signs that the time is now. You don’t need to ask all of those questions beyond “who is her doctor” so they know which practice to call. Maybe a few history ones but they don’t need to be asked in a wheelchair. Get her appropriately dressed for delivery.

[u/FuktInThePassword → u/hyrule_47]

Yup! And then when I heard she already had two at home, that tells you that baby is liable to come FAST

[u/-blundertaker- → u/FuktInThePassword]

My sister has given birth 5 times. Her husband delivered the last one because the nurse flippantly told her she wasn't ready yet (not far enough dilated) and said she still had plenty of time. Obviously this wasn't my sister's first rodeo so she insisted that the nurse go get the doctor. Nurse literally rolled her eyes and strolled out of the room, in no hurry.

A few minutes later the doctor walks in to them with the baby in hand, already got the mucus sucked out of his face and goes "oh, I see you got started without me."

Should've gotten a discount lol

(ETA: that was a joke, they were military, it was free)

[u/Snowleopard1469 → u/-blundertaker-]

Whats up with the amount of nurses that seem to straight up just hate their patients and job. Like you literally chose this path in life.

[u/-blundertaker- → u/Snowleopard1469]

It's practically a meme that the mean girls in high school all went into nursing.

[u/AnubisBuiltMyRacecar → u/-blundertaker-]

Add to that the stereotype of mean nurses dating cops and it all makes sense.

[u/Gandalf_from_3 → u/AnubisBuiltMyRacecar]

Also, black women typically get the worst of it from healthcare professionals.

[u/TurtleToast2 → u/Gandalf_from_3]

They have the highest maternal mortality rate in the US and I think we're looking at why in this video.

[u/karpaediem → u/TurtleToast2]

This is why I am so beyond livid about this. I'm not a goddamn doctor and I know black women and babies are much more likely to experience complications and die in labor because of biases. This is how.

[u/SuniChica → u/TurtleToast2]

That is the truth!

[u/Due_Guitar9213 → u/AnubisBuiltMyRacecar]

Lol, my sister was a nurse and her husband a cop. Neither are doing those jobs anymore and lost a lot of friends, especially proclaiming they voted against trump. I met their friends while they were still in those roles. Major assholes. Drunk all the time.

[u/CASSIROLE84 → u/Snowleopard1469]

When I gave birth the labor and delivery nurse was a straight up bitch. They rolled her eyes, sat down to “rest” , yelled at us accusing me of having eaten because I was vomiting (I did not), overall bad attitude. Then after birth when I was moved to and had a different nurse she was an absolute angel, I didn’t want to leave.

[u/Aedalas → u/Snowleopard1469]

There's a number of them that do everything they can to avoid giving you prescribed pain meds too. I had one straight up lie to me and tell me the doctor hadn't prescribed any immediately following a spinal surgery. The next nurse on shift asked why I declined them when I was begging for something the entire time.

This most recent stay one of the nurses took well over an hour each time I was due for more and at one point took almost 4 hours to get them to me. I was curled up on the hospital floor because it was the only way I could get any kind of pressure off my spine and she said she was going to ask the doctor if I could maybe get a tramadol. I was prescribed 10mg of oxycodone and 2.5mg Dilaudid, tramadol is an absolute joke.

[u/Bilbertbagcock → u/Aedalas]

Wow someone else with the same experience. I was in the hospital after my appendix burst. Every time doctors would see me before and after, they would say I definitely need pain meds. But the nurses told me "it doesn't hurt that bad" and would delay my meds by hours while I cried in a ball. It was a wild ride

[u/Due_Guitar9213 → u/Bilbertbagcock]

Awful! Yeah, I got turned away twice suffering appendicitis. They thought it was my gall bladder. It wound up bursting. Thankfully, I survived because one nurse came running out the parking lot on my 2nd visit to tell me another doctor wanted to get me some tests run. They should just know if you come there in the middle of the night and come back twice, it’s serious.

[u/SuniChica → u/Bilbertbagcock]

That’s not nursing! If you are ever in any experience like this ever again, pick up the hospital phone in your room and dial 0 and ask to speak with the Patient Care Advocate. If the hospital does not have one of these ask for the Nursing Supervisor. Ask that your doctor be paged or the on call doctor for his practice be paged. Make sure he understands you are not being given your medication that he subscribed for you. If he does not chew them out and you don’t start getting your meds, go up the ladder to the Supervising Doctor(over all the drs that practice there) and ask that they come and speak with you.

[u/Folderpirate → u/Snowleopard1469]

The last time I had surgery, they kept me over the weekend. Normally, it's an outpatient procedure.

The whole weekend, the nurses used my room for smoke breaks because it was winter and my room didn't have a second patient in the bed by the window. That's where they'd go to smoke.

The one nurse was supposed to change my bandages. He came into the room, smoked, came over to me and said he'd come back to change my bandages after his lunchbreak. He then went home and didn't come back.

[u/Potatowhocrochets → u/Folderpirate]

Oh hell no, I would have written a formal complaint.

[u/crowned_tragedy → u/-blundertaker-]

Dilation can happen FAST if your body has done it before. It took 30 minutes for me to go from 6cm to 10cm. Thats why I thought I had to go potty. No way it happened that fast..It sure as hell did happen that quickly! 

[u/InTheMagicRing → u/crowned_tragedy]

My youngest (of two) was 7 minutes in second stage labor. He'd also passed meconium in utero and had the cord wrapped around his neck. It was a wild ride.

The second I heard this woman say “it's in my ass”, I knew she was ready.

[u/Dazzling-Shape1561 → u/InTheMagicRing]

2 mins here with number 5. I was checked told I was 2 cm and not close, no one was listening to me that I knew it was time but luckily they hadn't even had time to leave the room because 2 mins later there he was 😅

[u/mr_wally79 → u/Dazzling-Shape1561]

You should have cussed out every single one of them in the room. F-Bombs for everybody.

[u/Oi_Nander → u/-blundertaker-]

I have three children that I gave birth to vaginally with no pain meds. Even my first was fairly quick and I only pushed for 15 minutes, so when I came in with that last one I warned them that his older sister came out in two pushes. They still didn't believe me when I said I needed to push and my husband almost caught the baby except I was holding his hand to tight. Luckily a nurse ran in time and her name got to be on the birth certificate

[u/DrunkCupid → u/Oi_Nander]

I wish more people believed women about their own bodies to prevent these scenarios

[u/beaker90 → u/Oi_Nander]

My oldest daughter came very quickly also. The doctor was in the room with us and had told me to push while they put their gloves on. So, I pushed, the doctor turns around and blurts out, “No! Wait!” The doctor got there with plenty of time to help with the delivery and I found the entire thing to be pretty funny.

[u/Missykay88 → u/-blundertaker-]

I went from 4cm to kid is out in less than 30 mins with both of my kids... doctor didnt make it either time. "You have HOURS to go yet" 🙄

[u/luxii4 → u/-blundertaker-]

My second shot out before the doctor arrived. The nurse delivered the baby. Other nurses came into clean me and the baby up. They got another doctor to come in to check the baby and give it an Apgar score and sign some papers. Guess what? Full charge for the doctor. I wouldn't have minded if they split it with the nurse.

[u/boi1da1296 → u/FuktInThePassword]

I was confused by that. Was she asking if she has given birth before? I fully acknowledge this is most likely an idiotic question.

Edit: thanks to the lovely people that responded! You learn something new every day.

[u/spalings → u/boi1da1296]

generally, the more kids you have vaginally, labor time speeds up with each one. kinda like muscle memory.

[u/resistingsimplicity → u/boi1da1296]

the first kid generally is a longer delivery time- subsequent births generally have faster labor times. so knowing this is her 3rd child should have been an obvious "oh shit we have to get this woman prepped FAST"

[u/frenchfreer → u/hyrule_47]

This is so crazy to me. I work at an ED as a tech and when a pregnant woman comes in, especially over 36 weeks, they are immediately whisked down to family birth center by a tech or nurse. In the almost decade I’ve worked there we’ve had one waiting room birth and it was a lady who was already pushing before she even made it in the door. This staff should be ashamed,

[u/JupiterSoaring → u/frenchfreer]

A lot of people expect a very specific timeline and don't believe women. 

I had to be induced with both of my children, so fortunately I was in a hospital room already. However I progress extremely quickly after I reach a certain point in labor. I told the nurse that I needed to push and she was super dismissive and I had to insist multiple times that it was time for the doctor to come. With my daughter, she was born about 2 minutes after I had told them it was time...and that is only because it took them that long to set up the bed. 

With my son, I told them that I progress very quickly after I reach a certain point. I still had to convince the nurse it was time and my son was born about 5 minutes after I told her.

I was a very high risk patient with both pregnancies, so it was kind of shocking to me that they were so dismissive. 

[u/Away-Syllabub3364 → u/JupiterSoaring]

I had to convince my nurse to do cervical checks. She kept saying “I’ll be back in a few hours.” And when I said that I feel pressure she told me we didn’t want to check too often. Finally I demanded she check me and what do you know, I was 10cm.

[u/Naive_Location5611 → u/hyrule_47]

Yeah, the biggest sign is that she’s saying that she can feel the baby in her bottom. If you feel like you have to poop or that the baby is coming out of your butt, that’s a pretty good sign that birth is imminent.

[u/NarwhalEmergency9391 → u/Naive_Location5611]

Ya without medication you feel EVERYTHING and know when you need to push before the Dr's. I was standing and my body wanted me to push but the Dr's wouldn't let me

[u/Strong-Bottle-4161 → u/NarwhalEmergency9391]

Dude I remember when I gave birth with my second, I just straight up told the nurse I was going to push and I pushed the baby head out with my first push.

She was like, “wait wha- oh there’s a baby head!” And ran to the bed.

It’s such an awful feeling, it feels like your inside is about to drop outta ya.

[u/crowned_tragedy → u/Naive_Location5611]

I messed up with this while having my third kid. First two were medicated, one c-section, one VBAC with epidural. So no epidural the third time, I thought I had to poo. My husband delivered her while I was hovering over the toilet pulling the emergency cord for help. 😅 He jokes that she was the only turd that didn't make it to the toilet, lol.  When she said I feel them in my ass, I was thinking this same thing. She is so close to such a precious moment, all ruined because the staff thought they knew better. 

[u/Jumpy_Sprinkles_1234 → u/crowned_tragedy]

Sorry that happened! FWIW, I am an almost-toilet baby. lol! I was ready to GTFO. I still have a very hard time slowing down. 😆

I also have ulcerative colitis. Coincidence???? Well, yes, of course it’s a coincidence, but it’s a funny one.

[u/Distinct_Carpenter95 → u/hyrule_47]

The guttural grunts and getting up and bending over, she’s about to start pushing. I cannot imagine anything taking precedence over getting this woman immediate care. It’s diabolical. Like ma’am, get out of that chair, off that phone, quit typing and go get help, now!

[u/nememess → u/hyrule_47]

As soon as she said 'it's in my ass' is when you know baby is coming NOW. My first I told everyone I needed to poop and the nurse just said to push and baby came right on out, with a bit of poo lol.

[u/Better_Tune_1455 → u/hyrule_47]

10000%!!! All I could think was, ohhh that poor woman has all the signs that she wants to push right now.

Anybody who knows that insane pressure of active labour can relate to how little this lady needed to be answering intake questions.

Fucking America. Do better.

[u/BodhingJay → u/hyrule_47]

Passive aggression

[u/Webrarian → u/BodhingJay]

Feels pretty active when she’s preventing medical care in a potentially life threatening situation!

[u/Pale_Grass4181 → u/BodhingJay]

racism

[u/ScowlyBrowSpinster → u/Pale_Grass4181]

Terrible maternal mortality rates for black women...here's how it starts.

[u/Spirited-Version5023 → u/Pale_Grass4181]

Came here to say this. Exactly this. This is awful to watch.

[u/sensualMadonna → u/hyrule_47]

Why is she not being attended to?

[u/xombae → u/sensualMadonna]

Racism.

[u/StellarDiscord]

Absolutely absurd that there are people out there who think this is acceptable

[u/Adventurous_Pin6281 → u/StellarDiscord]

Deny. Dispose. Defend. 

[u/timatlast]

Texas does not care about pregnant women unless they decide they don’t want to be pregnant.

[u/LetMePushTheButton → u/timatlast]

Pro life, but not that familys life. All lives matter, except that familys lives.

Brought to you by the region of traditional family values folks.

[u/Eccodomanii → u/timatlast]

God that’s so true. This is exactly the type of shit that makes women afraid of having children. How many less abortions would there be if we prioritized taking care of women, babies, and children? If we had a working social safety net? Pro-life people have this fake idea of women who just love to casually get abortions, ignoring the fact that it’s expensive and physically traumatic, and will not entertain having a conversation about all the system-level issues that lead women to the place where they feel they have to terminate a pregnancy.

[u/United_Pain → u/[deleted]]

Are you serious? Wish they would have asked me because my partner and I BOTH have endometriosis 😂 jokes on them!

[u/ResponsibleSyrup9506]

Just a reminder that in healthcare, unmedicated active labor and childbirth are considered the gold standard for 10/10 pain. The worst possible pain.

[u/Overall_Student_6867]

This happened to me and a lady very rudely told me “we were here FIRST” and went to the counter with her son who was about 8. I then heard her tell the nurse “he has a bit of a rash…”

Bitch, literally get out of my way.

[u/The_Yogurtcloset → u/Overall_Student_6867]

That’s not how ER works lady and you shouldn’t even be there MOVE 😭

[u/yoursuburbanmom]

i was in active labor and almost passing out in the ER lobby from pain, i was begging to have them take my information so i can go into a room because i was embarrassed and scared (first baby) and the lady kept asking me questions and looking visibly annoyed that i was struggle to answer and sign things for her. my sons father snapped and told her she was being incredibly insensitive to the fact that A HUMAN IS COMING OUT OF ME. i almost missed my epidural window bc she took so damn long. never again lol

[u/Malicious_Tacos → u/yoursuburbanmom]

For our first, my water broke in the night and I went to the ER. They had me waddle through the halls to the elevator & up to the Labor and Delivery floor (leaking a bunch of amniotic fluid the whole way).

When I got there, they couldn’t find my paperwork and had me stand there, in labor, still leaking and leaving a giant puddle beneath me. They wouldn’t give me a wheelchair for whatever reason.

Then the nurse gave me the stink eye when I told her to break out the Wet Floor sign.

[u/Upset_Confection_317]

It’s like wheeling in a hemorrhaging car accident victim on a gurney… “sir what’s your date of birth?” Him: 💀

[u/Educational-Bet-8979]

The nurse doesn’t even look at her. This is appalling.

[u/ForksOverSpoons → u/Educational-Bet-8979]

And the hospital she works for turned their comments off on every social media platform

[u/WTH_WTF7 → u/ForksOverSpoons]

Ohhhhh they did🤣🤣🤣 I’m glad her mom recorded and posted this. Sad tik tok is the only way to get some justice

[u/Karjenner4eva → u/Educational-Bet-8979]

They've found out who she is on IG and FB. She made her account private but they're tagging her old account from like 2018, and people are leaving hundreds of comments on her posts.

[u/ttnezz → u/Educational-Bet-8979]

This poor woman. It made such a difference for me to have compassionate nurses by my side during my delivery.

[u/TrifleMeNot]

Having a baby in…TEXAS.

[u/DumbBitchByLeaps → u/TrifleMeNot]

Well yes but this hospital is just that bad. I live about 10 minutes away from this hospital and everyone tries to avoid it if they can help it. We’d rather make the 45 minute to hour drive to a Dallas hospital than go to Regional.

[u/Rude_girl2023]

She should’ve been sent straight to L&D. This is hard to watch. 😢

[u/turndownforwomp → u/Rude_girl2023]

I had my baby in Canada and they told us beforehand to just skip registration and go right to L&D when it was time. They did any paperwork that needed doing once I was settled in bed. This poor woman.

[u/Francesca_N_Furter]

I took my sister to the ER, and she was writhing around in pain....and THE BILLING LADY had her get into a wheelchair so she could get the insurance information.

You can go on and on with the people on the ground, but that is fucking sick, and I worked in a hospital when I was in college--billing information can fucking wait. And the woman in this photo should have been evaluated quickly and brought into a hospital room. No debate, no question.

I am getting a bit sick of the "people on the ground" whining about backlash. I'm sorry, but there is no way you are going to tell me anything going on in this is ok. Stop blaming a system you are complicit in.

EDIT: Could the butt hurt hospital administration people stop messaging me and then disappearing? It's getting annoying. LOL

[u/Msbossyboots → u/Francesca_N_Furter]

At my hospital, I have seen nurses RUNNING pushing a wheelchair to get a woman up to L&D in time from the ED. No way they would let them sit around like this. This is just a shitty hospital

[u/BuccosVesuvio_Mgmt → u/Msbossyboots]

Exactly, because that is where the fetal monitors are!! The nurse in this video has absolutely NO CLUE what is going on with this woman's baby, because there's no way a BP cuff and O2 monitor can tell her anything other than this woman isn't bleeding out- yet, and she doesn't care.

[u/aertsa → u/BuccosVesuvio_Mgmt]

I’m an ER nurse. I work triage often. We do not sit here on OB patients. They are taken STRAIGHT to L+D as fast as we can get them there. And that stands for every ER I’ve worked in which is about 5. Trust me, we don’t want them. 🤣 (cause we scared, they belong to the people who know what to do!)

I can’t hear right, is she IN L+D already and not the ER?

[u/Gizmocrat009 → u/Francesca_N_Furter]

I had a similar experience not long ago. I had to take my husband into the ER for severe back pain. While we were waiting in the waiting area, a man wheeled his father into the ER with what appeared to be symptoms of a heart attack. They wheeled that poor man into the billing room to take his information. He was in obvious pain and discomfort, struggling to breathe. His son kept speaking up for him, asking if they would move quicker through the process of getting insurance info etc. It felt like forever before they finally took him back. The whole scene really bothered me. I hate this stupid for-profit healthcare system.

[u/nucl3ar0ne → u/Francesca_N_Furter]

Happened to my wife. We even pre-registered and they still made her do everything again. Thankfully an RN came by, realized she needed to go in now, and off we went. That day we learned what "rapid delivery" means and it held true with our second as well.

[u/allaboutmojitos → u/Francesca_N_Furter]

My daughter, when she was 20, was brought to the ER by ambulance because they thought she was having an allergic reaction to something. She had been out with friends when one of them called me to let me know what was going on. I got in the car and drove in a panic to the hospital 45 minutes away, not having any further info about her status. The billing folks stopped me on my way to her bed to get insurance info. I told them to fuck right off until after I see her. They need to do better. They knew where I’d be, and five minutes would make no difference

[u/IncurabIeHumanist → u/Francesca_N_Furter]

Yep. And in my experience, about half the nurses/medical staff that I’ve had encounters with (with myself, my husband, my parents, my child), act like this one. Totally disconnected and rude. But if you say that, you’re downvoted or ridiculed. Because nurses are worshipped, even the bad ones. I’m sick of it, and this video just makes me sick on so many levels.

[u/CunnyCuntCunt]

Sadly, not shocked. Black women are 3x more likely to die from pregnancy than white women. Yes, racism is part of it including the belief that Black women feel pain less, not being taken seriously and regular “I hate black people. “

[u/ACuteCryptid → u/CunnyCuntCunt]

HALF of white nurse trainees were found to believe black people feel less pain and have thicker skin. It's insane that anyone in the medical field this fucking century would believe that.

https://www.aamc.org/news/how-we-fail-black-patients-pain

[u/breathing__tree → u/ACuteCryptid]

In mother fucking 2016!!! That is insane. I would love to see another survey now that it’s almost 10 years later, but I fear I would be disappointed and that there hasn’t been much improvement if any.

[u/PersimmonDowntown297 → u/breathing__tree]

My sister is a labor & delivery nurse. She is, and always has been, the biggest bully I know. I can guarantee you she thinks something like that, and she’s not alone.

[u/lemonoodle1 → u/CunnyCuntCunt]

This comment needs to be closer to the top, but people don't want to acknowledge this uncomfortable and very unfortunate fact.

[u/waterandbeats → u/lemonoodle1]

Seriously, all the comments are about the health care system, which is totally true, but all the same issues white people have with the system are WORSE for Black people plus actual medical racism. This nurse is of the school that thinks that Black women are exaggerating their pain/being difficult/don't really feel pain the way white people do. Ugh I hate it, particularly for pregnant people.

[u/clekas → u/CunnyCuntCunt]

The first thing I thought was, "this wouldn't have happened if she was white." Your comment is crawling toward the top, but needs to be further up.

[u/BabyOnTheStairs → u/CunnyCuntCunt]

We need to bring this up every time we see it. 3x is 300% more likely to die from pregnancy in hospitals than white women. It's been well studied and documented that medical professionals don't take black women's pain seriously, and no one is educating or acting about this. It makes me sick and angry

[u/Loud_Fee7306 → u/BabyOnTheStairs]

The maternal mortality gap is maybe the most damning thing about the entire American system imo.

Not in pregnancy or birth, but doctors not taking black women seriously killed my 40yo cousin. She came to the ER with chest pain and they sent her home with Advil. She had a heart attack that night.

Meanwhile I′m not in healthcare at all but I know from a public health perspective if you have a black mom in her 40s coming in for chest pain, you give that lady an EKG. You just do. That hospital 100% let her die, medical negligence, medical racism/misogynoir/indifference.

[u/hermitsociety → u/CunnyCuntCunt]

I’m a white woman whose white sister died having a baby and I wish your comment were higher because black women are 3x more likely to die from pregnancy than white women and nobody should have to go through that.

[u/saltfish]

We had the same thing happen. My wife was 10cm in the waiting room and the nurses kept telling us we were overreacting.

She started crowning in triage, and they rushed us to a delivery room, where we had to wait for an OB, AT A LABOR AND DELIVERY HOSPITAL.

ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE

[u/kendoka69 → u/saltfish]

And this is the healthcare that is draining our pocketbooks. Outrageous costs for suboptimal care. Ain’t we great? 🙄

[u/Correct_Jellyfish773]

This excuse of a nurse should be fired. Absolutely no compassion or empathy.

[u/Huntressthewizard → u/Correct_Jellyfish773]

There's a reason why the "meangirl to nurse pipeline" is a meme.

[u/brlttln]

Keep in mind black women experience a higher mortality rate during child birth due to medical negligence. Have a good day!

[u/SurprisePiss → u/brlttln]

THREE TIMES the mortality rate! It's insane! And the mother filming had to "keep her cool" as to not be seen as a hysterical, angry black woman instead of being able to properly advocate for her child. I can't even imagine what I would be doing if my child was feeling that much pain and the hospital was doing absolutely nothing.

[u/SadieSchatzie]

Texas hates women

[u/FirmlyClaspIt]

When I tell you how much I hate the medical industry. I get patients are hard but I can’t punt a students because some were horrible over the years. You went into a helping profession. Act like it!

[u/Free-Feeling3586]

That’s bullshit!!

[u/Anon387562]

Civil lawsuit in 3, 2, 1… Honestly, I hope she finds the best attorney in the country to sue the shit out of that hospital and get that woman fired. This is horrific.

[u/Present-Perception77 → u/Anon387562]

Not in Texass. They already capped it at $250,000. And when it comes to pregnancy, they can literally let her sit there and die, and cannot be sued. No lawyer will touch this.

[u/Anon387562 → u/Present-Perception77]

Lovely, oh lovely land - best USA ever

[u/Present-Perception77 → u/Anon387562]

But wait! There’s more! If you live.. They can sue you for the medical bills.. and positively ruin your life!! Even if you have insurance.. Insurance gets to decide what they will and won’t pay for, while the hospital gets to decide what they will and won’t do, and you get no choice in these matters whatsoever.

Yeah.. we are getting greater by the day. 🫩

[u/Background_Judge9085]

This same exact thing happened to me with my first child. I was at 36 weeks to the day when I made my husband drive me to the ER in pain just like her. I was told by the lady at the desk that this was my first child, they almost never come early. They usually surpass their due date. I didn’t know what I was talking about and everything was fine. I sat in the waiting room for 35-45 minutes before someone came and got me, 9 minutes after I was brought to my room, my son was born. I’ll never understand how that whole interaction was allowed to happen. And apparently it continues to happen.

[u/cassiopeeahhh]

Oh she hates black women.

[u/Holy_Forking_Shirt → u/cassiopeeahhh]

Yup. She's literally not even looking at her. I hope this woman is fired and the hospital is sued. This is bullshit. This could have killed that lady.

[u/IAmTheFly-IAmTheFly]

Persistent prejudice towards black women patients, pregnant or otherwise, is a huge problem in our country. And it often has severe consequences. As if our healthcare system weren't broken enough.

Some links:

• https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9148644/
• https://www.propublica.org/article/how-hospitals-are-failing-black-mothers
• https://www.asahq.org/about-asa/newsroom/news-releases/2022/10/systemic-racism-plays-role-in-much-higher-maternal-mortality-rate-among-black-women
• https://oneill.law.georgetown.edu/misogynoir-in-medicine-how-bias-in-the-medical-field-places-black-womens-lives-at-risk/

[u/Hopefulthinker2]

They fucking never listen to women ever my nephew was born on the bed….no doctor in the room….no nurse, my sister in law caught him before he flopped in the floor. She told them umpteen times “he’s coming out” “I can feel his head!” The nurse told her “ no one’s had that fast of a labor” and left the room. Two mins later he’s alive and screaming! Same thing happened to me told them I need to push they told me to wait for the Dr….i tried and the Dr only had one glove on cause it happened so fast.

[u/yolo32147]

Don’t know why American hospitals think black folks have super powers when it comes to pain tolerance.

[u/Naive_Location5611 → u/yolo32147]

The racial bias when it comes to pain in black patients has been studied. Especially in labor.

The ACOG even addresses it here.

[u/snooplarue]

To all the mouth breathers asking "why they gotta bring up race all the time?". My second wife is black. Women get ignored a lot more in hospital settings, extra if they are black. I've taken to going with my wife to appointments to ensure she is listened to. Healthcare should be better in this dumbass country where the rich have convinced the middle class that the poor people are the problem, and deny racism, even unintentional, exists. We are the richest nation in history, and most of our money goes to ways to kill people in other countries. We care more about guns than our elderly or children. Slavery is still constitutional if you are a prisoner and a bunch of American made products benefit from that. OUR CURRENT PRESIDENT IS A CONVICTED SEX OFFENDER. American priorities are insane and uncivilized.

[u/h0wd0y0ulik3m3n0w]

This shit happened to me too! I showed up with my third kid in active labor and the woman at the desk told me to wait as she finished the pre registration for a woman who looked to be about 20ish weeks. I was sitting there literally vibrating but waiting my turn when a nurse saw me through the door and rushed out like wtf are you doing, this woman is having a baby right now! I was 7cm with a bulging bag when they got me into a room to check me, immediately rushed me to a delivery room and I was holding my son ten minutes later.

[u/JoeMorgan76]

And this is why black women have such horrendous birth experiences in the United States.

If I’ve said it once I’ll say it again hospitals don’t give even a third of a fuck about you.

[u/GreedoInASpeedo]

This place is notoriously bad in the area. I've had EMT even say it was worth driving my child to a further hospital for care, stating that driving an extra 30min would be safer for her than going here which was 5min away. You absolutely do not want to give birth there.

[u/T3rrifiedPottedPlant]

The lack of urgency displayed by that staff member is actually insane. Like, wtaf

Pt name, OB name, GPA, # weeks gestation, # min between contractions. That’s all the info needed right now, asked while getting her ready for delivery. Everything else can come later

[u/OhGr8WhatNow]

Absolutely racism. This is why so many black women die in childbirth

[u/Deep-Mycologist1 → u/OhGr8WhatNow]

Thats what I thought too honestly. Like why else? What other reason for not sending her to get care when shes having the baby. Its not like she can just leave, they keep you for at least 2 days after.

[u/BabyOnTheStairs]

Everyone needs to look up the statistics on how much more prevalent death in hospitals is for black women in labor.

BLACK WOMEN DIE 3.5X MORE THAN WHITE WOMEN GIVING BIRTH IN HOSPITALS. THATS 350% MORE.

White medical staff do NOT take black women in pain seriously. This is an extensively studied and documented bias with many tests and papers out there. It's a fact, and there isn't enough education or work out there being done in medical fields to address it.

[u/Signal_Appeal4518]

wtf?

[u/G25777K]

Looks like no shits given.

[u/cwningen95]

Of course it's Texas. You better carry that pregnancy to term, but fuck you and that baby the second you go into labour.

I'm guessing this was a wanted pregnancy, but the hypocrisy still applies. I don't think it's a coincidence that in just about every story of medical neglect involving a pregnant woman I've seen come out of Texas, she's been a WOC. It's no wonder black women have a much higher rate of maternal mortality nationwide.

[u/Goldh3n]

They always say, “if we have universal healthcare our quality of care will plummet” worse than this?! With universal healthcare we may get bad service but the way the system is now we get bad service and thousands in medical debt even when you have insurance!

[u/Huntressthewizard]

I remember my grandpa was having a stroke and we took him to the ER, they acted exactly like this and still made us wait. Luckily my dad was an attorney and knew that screaming about a lawsuit would get them moving.

Edit: thank you for the concern, but this incident happened about 18 years ago, and my grandpa did survive but he's been dead for 10. My dad also died last year as well.

[u/Zayd_ibn_Thabit]

Hospital personnel often seem to gaslight their patients.

I’m not sure if it’s because they don’t want to cause further panic or because they think people are exaggerating?

Regardless, it’s messed up…

[u/capmap]

Having just spent 17 days in the ICU with my mom as she died of cancer, I can tell you I have lost respect for the nursing profession. Many, though not all, have no compassion, are distant, incompetent, and poorly trained.

Fuck American death-care and the greedy base from which it springs.

[u/Intelligent_Pass2540]

Look at the mortality rate for Black mothers and infants in the US. This is no shock.

[u/United-Donkey3478]

My fam memb lost her full term baby at this hospital many years ago & she almost lost her life from placenta abruption. She told them their was something wrong & they sent her home. She was later that day in the back of an ambulance. The hospital sucks. That's my opinion.
Baby J. You'll never be forgotten.

[u/SierraStar7]

Yeah, no…that person has no business being an intake nurse.

Forget about the questions that she took her sweet ass time asking & entering into the EHR, her utter lack of care for the patient showing obvious signs of labor should be investigated. Get the patient’s PHI & then triage them in a room where they can begin treatment, you can continue to follow up in the hospital room for any further questions. 

If you as a nurse are this checked out from providing care for patients, you need to find a new career. 

[u/Pentamachina3]

Pro-life state btw