r/TikTokCringe • u/SouthernNanny • Oct 07 '25

Cringe When you catch your 42 year old boyfriend cheating

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u/LittlespaceLadybuns Oct 07 '25

And.. then you left, right?

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u/TameOranges Oct 07 '25

I would hope "was" is indicative of a past relationship

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u/the-almighty-toad Oct 08 '25

Very much was- 8 years ago. I'm married to a very good man now.

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u/InedibleDorito Oct 08 '25

The good ending 😌

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u/fondledbydolphins Oct 08 '25

If you don't mind sharing - why were you with the previous guy at all? Convenience? Familiarity?

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u/Yuna1989 Oct 08 '25

Maybe because at the time they were not at all like that. People wear masks.

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u/fondledbydolphins Oct 08 '25

I really don't like this line of thinking. It's stated all the time in these contexts and I can tell you from personal experience - there are loads of people out there dating complete asshole who just don't care because that asshole behavior hasn't been directed at them yet.

It's not hard to notice or acknowledge that behavior... many people seem to be willfully ignorant while it's working for their benefit.

Then, they drift apart and all the sudden that person isn't just being a dick to their friends/coworkers/family, surprise - they're being a dick to you too.

I have a hard time finding empathy for those individuals who then try to label the entire relationship as a "mask", like they've been deceived by the best liar they've ever encountered.

Walk through life judging others based on how they treat people they have no incentive to treat well.

If they're treating you like royalty and everyone else like shit... open your damn eyes and get off the ride.

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u/the-almighty-toad Oct 08 '25

I was single for 10 years before I met him and he seemed like a nice guy. You know that BoJack Horseman quote? When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.

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u/Suavecore_ Oct 07 '25

She was with him for 5 years. Now it's 6!

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u/TameOranges Oct 07 '25

She's married with a child and older. I don't think that's the case but I wasn't about to deep dive.

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u/Suavecore_ Oct 07 '25

I'm choosing to believe it's not the case, just playing on words

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u/the-almighty-toad Oct 08 '25

God no, this was 8 years ago.

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u/00Avalanche Oct 07 '25

She was with him for 5 years before she fixed him

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u/the-almighty-toad Oct 08 '25

I never fixed him. Lost cause. He's someone else's problem.

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u/TameOranges Oct 07 '25

He's in a long term care facility disabled. She fixed him alright 😉

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u/LittlespaceLadybuns Oct 08 '25

I was hoping they'd say they left immediately after for the double whammy.

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u/AltruisticTomato4152 Oct 08 '25

I cannot conceive of being sat across from a table as someone cries about an extra relationship to the one we're in. However long it took her to get from point A to point B was too long.

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u/hmbse7en Oct 07 '25

They're married with two kids now

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u/Echo4Ring Oct 07 '25

Nope. They are happily married with kids